Planesdragon's Journal: Random Wisdom - sexuality

Please accompany me for a moment on a thought experiment. By the end, you might just be able to make my point for me.

Imagine yourself as a virgin, who has never had sex before. (Some of you may not have to imagine. Others will have to think back to grade school.) Now, picture that one Friday night you and a classmate find a quiet room somewhere, get naked, and have absolutely mind-blowing sex.

After finally getting home on Sunday night, you lie in bed, no doubt thinking about the experience and how your life has changed. You might fret and worry over the taboos you've crossed. You might be relieved at passing another of life's hurdles. You will almost certainly be thinking of the person you had sex with, and wondering if you can do it again next Friday night.

Now, with that thought firmly in mind, think about what would be different if you were a different gender, or if your virginal mate was a different gender. You'd still be thinking about them. It would still impress upon you the "wow" of sex, and should you and your virginal partner seperate you would likely seek out a person of a similar gender and orientation to your virginal mate.

The point?

Humans are designed to want to fuck whatever we first fucked pleasurably.

In fact, the underlying principle goes even further. Those of you who aren't finally re-taking Psych 101 this semester can probably list a litany of other instances where humans seek out repetition of situations they enjoyed.

I used to go with that theory

[Marxist Hacker 42]

Then came all of this biology nonsense.

And it seems to work backward for lesbians- every lesbian I know has a rape by a man in her past- thus she seeks out the opposite of what was so painful to begin with.

Re:I used to go with that theory

[Planesdragon]

And it seems to work backward for lesbians- every lesbian I know has a rape by a man in her past- thus she seeks out the opposite of what was so painful to begin with.

Which is why I said *pleasurable* experience. If the same lesbians had been raped by the women they turned to, and then they found comfort with a man or their dog, then they'd be heterosexual or bestiality-freaks.

Counter-examples

[ndogg]

I can guarantee you that I could introduce you to people who are counter-examples to your argument. I've met plenty of homosexuals who's first sexual experience was heterosexual in nature. Are they grateful to that experience? Probably, but you'd have to ask them. They are both men and women. I haven't met anyone who's had the opposite experience, yet (i.e. a heterosexual who's first experience was homosexual in nature), or they just haven't told me.

In fact, the underlying principle goes even further.

Re:Counter-examples

[Planesdragon]

I've met plenty of homosexuals who's first sexual experience was heterosexual in nature.

So has MH42. Other examples include vacum cleaners, rapes, and their own selves.

None of that changes the point that we're first and foremost creatures of habit. And, yes, if the latter instances aren't nearly as good the person may seek out other avenues--but that doesn't defeat the basic assertion.

Of course, compared to the orignal discussion that spurred me to write this, people choosing a different sexuality (as in,