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What would u do if you had 9 months left to live?

NCalGal (944418) writes | more than 8 years ago

User Journal 6

Two Days ago a friend of mine told me he has cancer and it has spread to his lymphnodes and he has 9 months to live. Three opinions later he still has only 9 months to live. So what would you do?
Clearly he is in shock. He is one of the sweetest people I have ever met, with a huge heart of gold. He is mad at God for good reason. He told me at this time he does not plan to quit his job. So last night I asked him let's say the doctor called and said "OOPS blew it, you really have another 40 yeaTwo Days ago a friend of mine told me he has cancer and it has spread to his lymphnodes and he has 9 months to live. Three opinions later he still has only 9 months to live. So what would you do?
Clearly he is in shock. He is one of the sweetest people I have ever met, with a huge heart of gold. He is mad at God for good reason. He told me at this time he does not plan to quit his job. So last night I asked him let's say the doctor called and said "OOPS blew it, you really have another 40 years left, what would you do in those 40 years?". So he proceeds to tell me:
- Vacation in Camen Isl
- Vacation in South of France
- Go to a B&B in the Austria mountains
- Go back to Russia
- Get in better health, strait away
- and more along these lines.
So then I said, OK, now what is prohibiting you from doing these now. GO DO THEM. Live everyday like it's the last! Well he is still in shock. The good news, he has already done these things, except for maintaining his health.

So what would you do?

Here is what I would do (I think)?
- Go to the South of France and walk bravely topless
-SkyDive
-Work 1 day a week, TOPS
-Spend SOOOOO much time with my sons
-Spend more time w/ my parents and siblings and neices and nephews
-Be with my lover often
-paint
-sing more
-learn to play the piano
-fresh flowers all over the house all the time
-go to mass,twice aweek
-laugh 10% everyday
-dance every other day
-go to more concerts n theater more
-take weekly nature hikes
-daily dog walks
-volunteer more

OK. So, other than the skydiving and topless South of France thing, piano playing and working part-time, I'm doing pretty well achieving these, simply need to do more of it!!!!!!!

LIVE LONG THRIVE

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6 comments

Smart (1)

linvir (970218) | more than 8 years ago | (#15274415)

Very smart question to ask your friend, that was.

As for the general question to the journal-reading Slashdot audience, to be honest, I could swing one of a few ways, probably depending heavily on how the shock affected me.

On one hand, I might go for the typical full-on pleasure burn out that everyone always described. There are a few places I'd make sure to visit, for one thing. Problem is, apart from that there aren't any particularly impressive or interesting things I'd do.

Another would be a big burnout of selflessness. I could try to write a PHP app to replace myself, where you feed it some text and it rejects your opinions and insults your principles for you. Instead of spending my savings on me, I could plough them into the education of a sibling or on building a skatepark (something like that, that'd bring people some happiness). Seems like a reliable way to end your life on good terms with both yourself and the world.

The final possibility is the most likely. I'd spend the entire 9 months alternating between mostly normal activities and occasional insane bouts of spontaneity. Depressingly mundane, but likely.

biased by the path of my life... (1)

kesuki (321456) | more than 8 years ago | (#15274751)

but other than the few twinges of uncertainty at what would come next I'd be telling myself, it couldn't possibly worse than the life I've had to date.

ultimately though, the question is best put another way, and i know it's from a song but 'if tommorrow never comes...' basically, if you're going to live your life with regrets for what you could have done, then you're already on the wrong track.

in the case of cancer, there are a number of diet related actions one can take, to try and give your body every chance of fighting back against the cancer. Fads aside, there are proven supplements such as amino acid capsules, and omega-3 and omega-5 fatty acids, which are helpful building blocks for the body. As i seem to recall one 'cancer fighting' diet involved heavily consuming flax seed and cottage cheese, flax seed is high in omega-3's and cottage cheese is high in amino-acids (in fact amino acid supplements are often made from whey, and other protein sources)

While i'm unsure if there are any studies demonstrating as such, but i know that if you give into cancer you will die around when the doctors expect you to. Even if taking heath supplements doesn't 'cure' you the ones i've mentioned have made an enormous difference in my energy levels. Also, vitamins and minerals are a good idea, although some don't digest properly unless they're split in half.

Re:biased by the path of my life... (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 8 years ago | (#15278656)

Hey Kesuki,

You need to do yourself a favor. Pick up this book:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060554738 [amazon.com]

It sounds really cheesy, but holy shit... it's incredible. It will change your life. The people described in that book are far more pathetic than you are and, well... just read it.

Don't think and overanalyze this like you do everything else. For once in your life, act.

Anonny

Re:biased by the path of my life... (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 8 years ago | (#15282153)

Or he could just drop dead. Because, you know, he's just so valuable to society. The money spent on printing a self-help book for him could be better spent making toilet paper for developing nations.

COWARD! Re:biased by the path of my life... (1)

NCalGal (944418) | more than 8 years ago | (#15288231)

Is this meant to be funny? This is so not funny! COWARD IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT!

Re:COWARD! Re:biased by the path of my life... (1)

kesuki (321456) | more than 8 years ago | (#15297442)

The funniest thing is the second AC didn't read the first Acs link :) That or didn't understand that 'the game' is a book about people who devote their entire lives to picking up singles in bars for one night stands...

anyways, I more laughed at the second ACs presumption that this was supposed to be some kiond of self-help book of some kind :)
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