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Goals

StalinsNotDead (764374) writes | more than 5 years ago

User Journal 11

These are what I have observed needs changing. All but the last two represent things which have deteriorated as my depression and apathy have increased. I just want to record them.

1. Reacquire the near-obsessive sense of order and neatness in the three primary environments in my life: my work area, my living area, and my transportation.

2. Resume an active role in grooming. Keep hair trimmed and facial hair un-UnABomberesque. Possibly regrow the handle bar mustache.

These are what I have observed needs changing. All but the last two represent things which have deteriorated as my depression and apathy have increased. I just want to record them.

1. Reacquire the near-obsessive sense of order and neatness in the three primary environments in my life: my work area, my living area, and my transportation.

2. Resume an active role in grooming. Keep hair trimmed and facial hair un-UnABomberesque. Possibly regrow the handle bar mustache.

3. Consult my physician and get back on the blood-pressure and anti-anxiety medications.

4. Reduce alcohol consumption to a rational level. Remove alcohol as a consumption-based refuge.

5. Improve diet. Eat at scheduled intervals, regardless of whether I am hungry. Currently, I only eat when I am hungry, which is not very often.

6. Quit dipping and/or smoking.

7. Begin exercising regularly.

8. Reintroduce color and variation into my wardrobe.

9. Purchase a new vehicle. I'm badly in need of one, as the current one is on its last leg.

10. Locate a suitable mate and become involved in a long-term, preferably monogamous relationship. This one may take longer than a year, as it is outside of my complete control. (It requires the consent of another party) Also, I would like to accomplish at least a few of the previous goals before this one.

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11 comments

goals are good (1)

stoolpigeon (454276) | more than 5 years ago | (#25072083)

everybody needs goals.
 
I don't know where I picked that up - but it immediately pops into my head when anyone mentions goals.

Re:goals are good (1)

StalinsNotDead (764374) | more than 5 years ago | (#25072315)

Goals are difficult for me. Not achieving them, but setting them. In the current state of apathy the "what's the point?" issues got in the way of goal-setting.

The issues with my cousin mentioned in a previous journal entry got me to thinking. And I realized it was entirely possible for me to get to the level where my own self-involvement outweighed the obligation to loved ones. At the current rate of decay, possibly within five years.

I would rather not reach that level of betrayal. Hence, forcing myself to set goals with the objective to improve my condition.

We shall see.

Re:goals are good (1)

stoolpigeon (454276) | more than 5 years ago | (#25072639)

I remember when I went through my divorce. My wife had kicked me out, I was living in my parents house and riding my bike to a grocery store where I worked. Moment by moment I was vacillating between living and not. I had a manager say something about doing something and I told him, "Man, I just don't care. I have absolutely no reason to care about anything."
 
A week later I bought a jeep. I was tired of depending on my folks to get around. It's weird looking back - but the monthly payment for it made me care about work, so that I could pay my bills. And I just built up from there.
 
There were other things that got me through it all - but it still surprises me what a big deal that was. I am not even sure why - I just know it mattered.

Evaluation of Goals (1)

FroMan (111520) | more than 5 years ago | (#25074239)

1. Reacquire the near-obsessive sense of order and neatness in the three primary environments in my life: my work area, my living area, and my transportation.

Upon accomplishing goal #10 do not procreate. Goal #1 gets thrown out the window upon procreation. I try to clean up after my son when he takes a nap and within minutes of waking up *every* toy is dispursed across the floor. I believe children are forces of entropy.

2. Resume an active role in grooming. Keep hair trimmed and facial hair un-UnABomberesque. Possibly regrow the handle bar mustache.

Shave once a week. Whether you need it or not. And by shave I mean use the beard trimmer at the lowest setting so it doesn't actually hit the skin. Women love the sandpaper feel, it's all rugged like and stuff. This is a major advantage in attaining #10.

3. Consult my physician and get back on the blood-pressure and anti-anxiety medications.

Hold on. You've seen like ER or Greys Anatomy or something? (I don't watch TV, so I am going out on a limb here, but following normal hollywood where they don't use ugly people) Well, the ambulance drivers and nurses are hot! Remember, goal #10!

4. Reduce alcohol consumption to a rational level. Remove alcohol as a consumption-based refuge.

Three words: Alcohol Enhanced Vision

If not for you, for lucky number #10. Remember, if you follow my advice in #2 this one may not be neccessary. She may swoon over you anyways. Finally, if #10 does happen, you even got yourself someone to fetch your booze for you.

5. Improve diet. Eat at scheduled intervals, regardless of whether I am hungry. Currently, I only eat when I am hungry, which is not very often.

Be all vegetarian. Chicks dig that. You and future Mrs. Not Dead can look down your nose at the barbarians eating steak next time you stop by Logan's Roadhouse to order rabbit food.

6. Quit dipping and/or smoking.

Nothing, besides a weeks worth of facial hair, turns a chick on quite like trading Skoal while making out. Number #10 is going to be quite upset if you give up such a romatic activity.

7. Begin exercising regularly.

Better yet, go out and buy a soloflex. Put it together and put it in your livingroom. Put it on the hardest setting and scuff it up so it looks like it has had heavy usage. Make sure you never leave more than one beer on the thing so you can claim you were working out on it just before comes to the door and you answer in your underware. Don't forget to flex a couple times.

8. Reintroduce color and variation into my wardrobe.

Definitely go with brown. And leather. And cowboy boots. And a cowboy hat. And a shiny belt buckle. And not one of those little ones. You want a belt buckle that will turn heads when you mosey on into the tavern. One that girls will think, well gosh, that suckker weighs more than my old buick, with the price of scrap metal nowadays that man can take care of me.

9. Purchase a new vehicle. I'm badly in need of one, as the current one is on its last leg.

To go with the new cowboy themed wardrobe, you definitely need a truck. Or a big honkin white caddy with the bull horns on the front. Remember, you are going to want lots of space to knock boots in the back when you accomplish #10.

10. Locate a suitable mate and become involved in a long-term, preferably monogamous relationship. This one may take longer than a year, as it is outside of my complete control. (It requires the consent of another party) Also, I would like to accomplish at least a few of the previous goals before this one.

Nah, what are you thinking?!? You don't want the girl to ascent. If you wanted her opinion you'd give it to her. And don't take no talk back from her. You put her in her place. You just walk up to her and say, "Hey babe, if I told you that you had a great body, would you hold it against me?"

Eleven (1)

Profane MuthaFucka (574406) | more than 5 years ago | (#25079017)

11. Two ejaculations a day keep prostate cancer away. Also good mental health benefits.

Regarding Number Two (1)

Degrees (220395) | more than 5 years ago | (#25082203)

I dislike shaving. But I do it, out of respect for the people I interact with. Or maybe it's because I want respect, and I figure that the more I live up to people's hopes, the more likely they will respect me. But on vacation - there's my freedom. :-)

Grooming (1)

bettiwettiwoo (239665) | more than 5 years ago | (#25091473)

Always when I read Sylvia Plath's "The Bell Jar" I laugh (bittersweetly) at the passage when she contemplates the vanity of washing her hair; it so aptly describes how I feel when I'm down in dumps: the uselessness of it all (I wash it today, and then I have to do it again the day after tomorrow; it just so never stops like, ever). Ditto vacuumcleaning. Ditto all those other goddamned things you just have to do again and again and again an....

So I've been thinking of just 'hiring' it all out: hair wash; waxing; vacuum cleaning; the lot. Yes, it will cost money ... but so do antidepressants (including alcohol and tobacco).

Optimal Prioritization (1)

sillypixie (696077) | more than 5 years ago | (#25100277)

If you raise the priority of #7, the others may get a bit easier. The exercise will kick your metabolism, which hopefully will affect your appetite, addressing #5. If you go to a gym, you will actually have a community to be groomed for and to dress for, which help to address #2 and #8. I've found that if you work out early in the morning, it is better to not be dehydrated and befuddled, and so #4 just doesn't make sense any more. And, of course, there are girls at gyms, so tactically, it makes sense for #10 too.

Indirectly, exercise could contribute to #1 too. Exercise is my stand against lassitude - when I have the mental strength to get out of bed and stumble to an odd contraption that forces me to leave my house, sweat, and contemplate my day for 30 minutes, I seem to be able to deal with the rest of this odd existence.

I know your goal was merely to record - but I couldn't help but see some of myself in what you wrote. I don't know if my twisted logic is useful or not, but there it is, in any case :)

Cheers,

Pixie

Re:Optimal Prioritization (1)

StalinsNotDead (764374) | more than 5 years ago | (#25104811)

I listed them in the order of feasibility, effort and effect. Past number 2, I'm not really looking forward to any of them.

I'm already getting returns on #1. So that's good.

contemplate my day for 30 minutes

That seems to be one of my problems, the constant contemplation without direction, fueled by my pessimism.

Re:Optimal Prioritization (1)

sillypixie (696077) | more than 5 years ago | (#25105617)

Seems like making this list was a positive start. I don't think constant contemplation is an issue -- the hard part is organizing the contemplation into resolution, at both strategic and tactical levels.

Meh I sound like I have it all together eh? I wish. I guess I'm just trying to work out my own thoughts by looking at your words.

Thanks anyways, for making me think about it all.

Pixie

Re:Optimal Prioritization (1)

The Fun Guy (21791) | more than 5 years ago | (#25107227)

That seems to be one of my problems, the constant contemplation without direction

I've found that I only get moving when I've grown sufficiently disgusted with myself for not getting moving already.

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