Journal eugene ts wong's Journal: Last Day @ Church 25
Yesterday was my last day @ church.
I basically went because I wanted to say goodbye & to basically go as much as I could, even if it would only be once in a blue moon. Since I'm attending improv classes, which are Saturday & Sunday, starting this coming Saturday, I think that I won't be able to attend any morning services.
I deliberately took these classes, even though it conflicted with the morning services because I still feel like I need more information on things in general, & thought that they might be able to help me, & believe that the church hasn't been helping me progress as much as I could. I also did it to give myself a tiny excuse to not go. I suppose that I could just go to an evening service, but I'm not really interested in going any more.
Let me explain.
Yesterday was kind of weird for me. It was the 1st time back since I had my 1st migrane. I missed that 1st Sunday because I was tired & trying to recover. After 2 missed Sundays, I was pretty much good to go, but I still didn't want to, because I was still tired, & I really wasn't in the mood for it anymore. I honestly thought that the feelings would pass, & that it was important not to stress myself out.
Yesterday, I felt a bit of nausea @ the very thought of going to church. I felt guilty for not wanting to go, & decided to just suck it up & go.
When I got there, I was surprised to see a particular lady teaching the class. She's been divorced, just because of not getting along. She doesn't exactly appear to be the most perceptive person that I met. She always seems to state the unnecessary. I tried to ignore all of that. After a while that nausea came back.
I had to ask myself, "Honestly, why do I even want to listen to this lady speak about missionaries of the past? What does she know? She doesn't strike me as an expert.". The more that I thought about it, the more that I became offended.
Eventually, I just walked out. I honestly couldn't stomach this. This was yet another lesson that was as impractical as any other. It boiled my blood to think that we were wasting so much time learning about things that don't make a difference in life. I remember thinking similar things before: "Why don't we learn about city planning issues & how they affect the church?"; "Why don't we learn about law & how it affects the church?"; "Why don't we learn about economics & how it affects the church?"; etc. Obviously, I would want us to learn about how those concepts affect us personally as well as the church, but you probably know what I mean.
What made it worse is that I read "The Tipping Point" in the previous week, which is about how small changes create big changes. It's basically about social behaviour & how we distribute information as a society. This was yet another field of study that the church was ignoring.
They unintentionally added insult to injury: they never allowed me to teach! Yeah, I know. I'm not the greatest, but still! I have a Bible college degree, & here they were asking this woman who probably knew less than a parrot. Argh!!! To add even more insult to injury, they rejected me when I asked if I could teach; twice! Again, I know that there could be people better than me, but I can't stand how it's so hard for me to find a place in that church.
So, anyhow, I just left & went to the church library to read whatever I fancied. After that, I went back to the classroom to say my good-byes, but many were chatting away, so I just said it to 1 fellow I could talk to. I was a bit disappointed in the way that he turned to chat with someone while I was still speaking. Again, I tried to dismiss it because maybe the fellow needed to speak to someone about something important before that someone left.
*sigh*
So while I was stewing away in the service, I couldn't get over how annoyed I was. Everything was the same: more sermons about trivial details that didn't change lives; more of everything but the essentials.
I'm just so mad.
Compare that to the people that I have volunteered with. I got compliments. I was told that he wish he could pay me. The lady is friendly with me. The students appreciated my work.
Obviously none of these facts mean anything, but how can a group hope to improve things when they have poor quality responses?
- "Well, you obviously perceive something wrong, but keep trying to be accepted, & maybe we will accept you 1 day."
- "Well, nobody's perfect!"
- "Hey, this is normal!"
Nobody said any of these things, but that's the impression that I get.
So, what does this mean for me & churches? Well, I think that I can't just excuse myself, & sit back while waiting for people to come to me & impress me. So, after improv classes, I'm going to bring out my sketch board & do some open air campaigning. When I was in college, 1 of the classes taught us how to use water colours to make low budget paintings that would grab the attention of pedestrians, while you preached an evangelistic sermon. That's right. Yours truly used to be 1 of those nutty guys on the streets, who would preach & hand out tracts.
Unfortunately, I honestly don't know what to say. Even if I knew what to say, I wouldn't know what to do with people if they showed an interest or converted. How does 1 go about leading a group of strangers in some new religious movement? I don't want to be a cult. I don't want to be part of Christianity. Talk about a rock & a hard place.
All I know is that praying & standing in the same place, will result in nothing. I'd rather try & fail, so that I can sleep @ night. No matter what, I refuse to give in to mediocrity.
I think that I have 3 things going for me, even 4 [wow, I always wanted to use that expression; more on that later]:
- the willingness to draw boundaries even when I lose out financially or authoritatively
- an understanding that there are more issues [ie: economics; justice; etc.] than prayer
- the understanding that faith is evidence of things unseen, as opposed to the common belief that it is willingness to believe without evidence, or gullibility, etc.; in other words, I want a religion that requires intellect & is accessible to the common man
- the willingness to part ways every time the congregation reaches 150 in membership
The last item is fundemental, because it protects the members from bad leadership getting too much power, & allows us to maintain a tight knit group. I leant that from "The Tipping Point". The idea is that we don't have the physical capacity to personally know more than 150 people. The Amish spilt up @ 150. The makers of Gortex do it too. No building contains more than 150 workers. Both groups discovered this on their own. Roman centurians lead 100 people. This seems subjective but undisputable.
150 is something that I pondered during the Sunday service. I couldn't get over many people we seemed to have only during 1 service: 400. No wonder there is no tight knit group!
I could be wrong, but even the cults split @ 150 as well.
I guess that's it. Questions? Comments?
Note: that phrase, "even 4" is in the Bible; it would often mention "...3 blah blah, even 4..."; there is nothing spiritually or intellectually significant as far as I can tell; I just happen to love the way that it rolls off the tongue.
I'll try to reply tomorrow... (Score:2)
Thoughts.. (Score:2)
First, I think you need to find another church, not stop going to church. The Bible clearly commands Christians to be a part of a local assembly. There are a lot o
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:2)
that requires intellect & is accessible to the common man :-)
Aren't these mutually exclusive?
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
When you look for a place, look for a church that constantly reads the scripture. You'll still have to watch out for left-field heresies, but a church that examines everything in the light of scripture will be much more
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:2)
I would add to that a structured reading of scripture is important. For instance, in any given Lutheran, Anglican, or Roman Catholic Church, the Post-Vatican II Missal has a
Please ignore that question. (Score:1)
Thanks!
Re:Please ignore that question. (Score:2)
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
Thanks for your thoughts.
I guess one other reason for my support of the 150 idea is that people become more productive & interactive when they are smaller than 150. At least, that's the way that I understand it. As it is right now, churches seem to have these official church plants and official ministries. This all seems very unnatural. A more natural approach would be to split when we get too big.
I can't understand why we seem reluctant to split at 150. Is it because of funds? If so, then
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
It's not the same. The person sitting next to you in your small group isn't the treasurer of your church. You only have 1 treasurer [unless your church is different than I understand it]. He might be the treasurer of your small group, but not the church. There is accountability of the church that isn't there. When I say "split", I
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:2)
You get to explain that you want to contribute more, and at this church, your contributions are not so welcome, so .... (It will be important to make this not sound like spite. Really, you are in search of place which has the best fit. There is a reason there are so many different churches.)
The other thing is that the pastor should know you well enough to give good advice. He will
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
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But guidance from above is always a good thing. :-)
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
as for wanting nothing to do with christianity: is it the teachings of christ that you disagree with, or the way they are taught at that church? christianity is very broad and encompasses many different things. it is taught many ways. don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. unless you're doing it on purpose.
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Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
I'm not too sure that I understand you here. I agree with the teachings of Christ, but I don't feel that they are being taught there. Also, my main complaint as of today is about the organizational structure. If somebody wants to do something in the church, then it is hard to do it, because he doesn't know where to go. It's just the way that it is. Members don't have good access to other members.
Thanks for your
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
well, i'm basing that on when you said:
I don't want to be part of Christianity.
it sounded like you were not interested in having anything to do with christianity, so i asked the question to help you find out whether it was your specific church that you were annoyed by or if it was the entirety of all churches that seek to learn from what christ taught.
either way, it's o
Re:Thoughts.. (Score:1)
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I agree with what you say here. However, for the sake of discussion, what you do if you looked in several different churches and couldn't find one? I suppose that it would be a good time to reevaluate our standards, but still. I honestly t
Take this with a grain of salt (Score:2)
1. You will never be able to grow in a church where the pastor and school teachers are allowed to avoid discussing their favorite sins.
2. You will never be able to grow in a church where the pastor and school teachers repeat their favorite Bible verses and never tackle the hard issues.
3. There's only a handfull of denominations that trace their teaching tradition back to the Apostles- and that teaching tradition (call
Re:Take this with a grain of salt (Score:1)
These issues were touched on in my Bible college. These ideas were often mentioned informally in various classes. I totally agree.
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Split at 150 (Score:2)
Having said that, how older denominations work within that boundary is with small group faith sharing- lay organizations like Knights of Columbus, Daughters of Mary, etc that give you a group you can j
Re:Split at 150 (Score:1)
Wow. I'm so glad that I put you on my friends list. The 1 thing that you never seem to do is stop coming up with fresh ideas; that is, fresh with respect to where I'm standing.
That being said, what do you mean about heresies & divorce? It is a heres
Re:Split at 150 (Score:2)
From a Catholic perspective, YES. What God has Joined, let no man put assunder. That's qualified of course (as all Catholic teachings seem to be)- Marriage is a sacrament, and thus must have proper form and intent to really be marriage. Thus the Catholic annulment process in cases of divorce- to see if the marriage ever really existed in the first place, and thus to see if a sin was commited w
Re:Split at 150 (Score:1)
Interesting. It is yet another topic that warrants more study.
Re:Split at 150 (Score:2)
The Seven acraments of the Catholic Church are divided into the Initiation and Adult Sacraments. Initiation sacraments are: Baptism, Eucharist, Reconciliation, an