Journal Liora's Journal: Well, I think there is a resolution 15
The couple I have been fretting over has reached a resolution that I think will work out. If it happens again, even one more time, he's going to leave for a while, and there are witnesses to back that up and make sure that it really happens. In the meantime, he's going to get some help. Reading your responses helped my friend know that she could take a stand and require that he get help as well as blow the air of secrecy surrounding the whole thing without feeling like she's being overbearing or demanding, which is what I hoped it would do for her. You guys are awesome. (And thank goodness you are predictably awesome with good answers and statements to sufficiently empower a pretty distraught wife.)
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Rather than let this finger wiggling go to waste, here it is in your journal for posterity (my own form of pride).
Rather than knee-jerk to the immediate, "she should leave," response as most here have, I'll give you a different perspective.
First, on divorce. Entering into marriage, God is binding a couple together. Christ tells us that is the case as, "What God has joined, let no man pu
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Instead, I'll simply respond to the one thing that irks me the most. I'll state my reaction was not in any way knee jerk. I am of the solid opinion that an abusive home is not a healthy home, and there are options available to people who are the subject of violence, one of which is leaving. There is no need for anybody to tolerate violence.
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I agree that violence is not excusable. I don't share FroMan's God Centered point of view, so you can't claim I'm using that as a prop to justify the unjustifiable (which, BTW I don't mean to project onto FroMan either, but I get that sense from your response). I do think that there is some middle ground, and I
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What I posted here should be clear and concise, and has nothing to do any God centric view. While I despise any outlook like God has it in for you, so even leaving will only get you beaten in the
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While violence is not good, infact I do give scripture reference to back that up, is plainly there. However, the issue is not as simple as "it hurts, don't do it." It is part of the fallen world we li
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Talking about knee-jerking. Just understand that you don't need any of these bibles, christian faith or religion to understand that violence in a household has no place. I'll explain.
A domestic household is an evolutionary process, during which all parties can come to agree or disagree with what is happening. If at one point you don't agree with the evolution, there are only 2 options: a) resolve it or b) leave. Both options will cost you energy, and both will hurt on both sides, but resolving is always
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Anyways, one thing to consider is that this is (was) a case where the couple is not only Christian and involved with the church (per description of two previous entries which have since been deleted). I wrote from a Christian perspective, for that reason, and that I also believe in what I wrote.
Anyways, as the situation seems to be rather resolved (as this JE is several weeks old now) and Liora has not brought up further discussion of it, I'm going to let this rest instead
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Okay, agreed, I dropped in a little late in this so it's probably better to let it rest. I also didn't want to offend anyone who is religious, I have a lot of sympathy and respect for that. But my senses jump to red alert when common day problems are approached from a religious angle rather than with common sense.
People can hold on to it religion, when they have nothing or nobody else to hold on to. That's good. That's valuable. That's progress. But if my post sounds a bit snippy it's because in my r
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I would hope that part of this agreement, there is a clause that says something like, if he does freak out, and doesn't leave, she will and do so post haste.
its about establishing boundaries... and she needs to do that... and stick to them... so when the shit hits the fan... she knows exactly what to do. Get outta Dodge.
I hope he is serious about getting help, and actually works on it. if so... then he can start rebuilding the trust that he's destroyed.
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