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A Broken Heart Really Does Hurt, Scientists Claim

samzenpus posted about 5 years ago | from the bruised-on-the-inside dept.

Medicine 220

Death Metal writes "Psychologists at the University of California, Los Angeles say the human body has a gene that connects physical pain sensitivity with social pain sensitivity. The findings back the common theory that rejection 'hurts' by showing that a gene regulating the body's most potent painkillers — mu-opioids — is involved in socially painful experiences too."

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slashdoters (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154239)

are familar with this effect

Re:slashdoters (2, Insightful)

PeterBrett (780946) | about 5 years ago | (#29154243)

Some more than others, unfortunately.

Re:slashdoters (-1, Troll)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154285)

I wonder if the easily offended feel hurt when you post the word NIGGER. If they do, let me be the first to say HAH-HAH!

NEWSFLASH: lots of people with absolutely no real racist inclinations will say NIGGER solely because you get your panties in a wad over it.

Re:slashdoters (-1, Troll)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154445)

I have a broken heart because everyone close to me seems to hate me. Oh well right. Right now I have a petty handgun that I bought from a crackhead and I am going to just drop a bullet into my brain. It might as well be right? You can all be dicks and comment and say shit to me but I won't know or care because I will happily be in oblivion where I belong. It's sad but slashdot will be the place for my last thoughts and this article will be the last one that I actually read. wow. . I just finished by bottle of jack and I am right on my way. Unemployed and useless. There is nothing for me in this world. Good bye gents.

Re:slashdoters (5, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154459)

Don't let the door hit you on your way out, Mr. Drama Queen.

Ohnoes. (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154257)

All the nerds out there are saying "This is bad."

Load of Crap! (-1, Troll)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154261)

That is a load of Horseshit! Anyone who says that "feeling hurt" is a whiny coward. Boo Hoo, cowboy the fuck up and take a salt tablet.

Everyone is becoming a bunch of Nancy-boy pansies nowadays.

Feel No Pain (5, Funny)

DirtyCanuck (1529753) | about 5 years ago | (#29154263)

"Individuals with the rare form of the pain gene, who were shown in previous work to be more sensitive to physical pain"

Isolate and manipulate.

Do The Evolution ;)

They've discovered the Emo Gene! (5, Funny)

StealthyRoid (1019620) | about 5 years ago | (#29154267)

Finally, parents can know ahead of time if their kids are destined to grow up into whiny little John Hughes emo assholes, and vacuum the little bitch out before they have to end up paying for 20 years worth of Hot Topic clothes.

Up next, the Goth gene!

Re:They've discovered the Emo Gene! (1)

youn (1516637) | about 5 years ago | (#29154621)

I wish they'd work on the I-love-the-techtonik-look-and-haircuts gene, that way we'd get rid of it once and for all

Re:They've discovered the Emo Gene! (3, Insightful)

Drenaran (1073150) | about 5 years ago | (#29155093)

What terrifies me is that I could easily see this form of child selection occurring. Remember how vain and cruel those girls from high school were? Well, guess what, those girls become the vain and cruel wives of rich men, placing them squarely in the realm of people who can afford to perform genetic screening on their kids and "weed out" "negative" traits.

claim they know WHY it hurts, not that it hurs (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154287)

They've long claimed it really hurts

isn't this obvious? (4, Insightful)

phantomfive (622387) | about 5 years ago | (#29154307)

I've been punched in the face, I've had torn muscles, I've stubbed my toe, I've hit my thumb with a hammer, and nothing has hurt as much as a broken heart. This seemed pretty obvious to me, but I am glad that researchers are paying attention to feelings, and figuring out what is there.

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

operator_error (1363139) | about 5 years ago | (#29154347)

Painful, yes. But 'stress' is just that.

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

commodore64_love (1445365) | about 5 years ago | (#29154867)

This study might explain why some women can treat men like toss-away toys, and not care. If they lack the emotional trauma == physical pain gene, they might not realize that they are causing actual damage, because they've never experienced it themselves. As example:

I recall a girl in college. Really cute and a very smart Bio major. Also a sorority girl so I figured I had scored on all fronts - beauty, brains, and sexy. We went out on a date and it was fantastic, with the night ending with a passionate goodnight kiss. BUT I could never get a followup. First she told me "no" because her ex-boyfriend was coming to visit the next weekend. Talk about shock, surprise, and pain. But I brushed it aside and thought, "Well he's 300 miles way - not a real threat," but she turned me down three more times over the next few months.

Eventually I said, "I just asked you out during Christmas break when we have two weeks of freedom from classes. And you said "no" you're busy. You say no every time I ask you out. If you don't want to go out, please tell me. I'll just stop....." At that point she interrupted, "But I do what to go out with you Jim!" "Really?When?" "I don't know. Maybe in February..." "That's two months from now!" "Yeah. Then what?"

Anyway she seemed to have absolutely no comprehension of the pain she was causing me (rejection). Perhaps she was one of those who does NOT have the emotional trauma == physical pain gene. I suspect there are a lot of women like that in the world, who lack basic empathy for the pain they cause to men. Long-story made short - my friends advised me to forget about her so I stopped calling.

Irony - A year later I saw her on campus and she wanted to know why I stopped calling.
She claimed I had hurt her. As if rejecting me four times didn't hurt.
(rolls eyes). A typical, socially-inept, clueless female nerd.

Re:isn't this obvious? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154897)

Oh please! The girl didn't want you but she didn't want to hurt your feelings. It's the opposite of what you think. Idiot. (And the fact you are an idiot is probably why she didn't want to be with you)

Re:isn't this obvious? (5, Insightful)

Ihmhi (1206036) | about 5 years ago | (#29154931)

Irony - A year later I saw her on campus and she wanted to know why I stopped calling. She claimed I had hurt her. As if rejecting me four times didn't hurt. (rolls eyes). A typical, socially-inept, clueless female nerd.

That's not irony, that's an attention whore. Once you stop doting on them they'll come to you and try to get your hopes back up.

Re:isn't this obvious? (0, Offtopic)

commodore64_love (1445365) | about 5 years ago | (#29154971)

That explanation would make sense had it been the *other* sorority girl I dated a year earlier, because she loved attention, but not this girl. Over the years I've come to realize she was socially inept, since she was heavily-sheltered by her parents (they wouldn't even let her take a car to college until she was a junior). I think she truly didn't realize that rejection hurts guys. I guess that's a side effect of being a bookworm. Or not having the trauma==pain gene. (shrug)

Re:isn't this obvious? (0, Flamebait)

Jurily (900488) | about 5 years ago | (#29155089)

This study might explain why some women can treat men like toss-away toys, and not care.

They can't treat men like that, only whiny little pussies.

If she's not attracted to you, there's nothing you can do about it. If she is, there's nothing she can do about it.

Re:isn't this obvious? (2, Insightful)

speedtux (1307149) | about 5 years ago | (#29155257)

A single date with no sex doesn't count as "treating men like toss-away toys, and not care". If you expect sex, love, or a relationship after one date and one kiss, there's something wrong with you, not with her. Maybe she isn't over her ex-boyfriend but would consider you once she is (in a year or two). Or maybe she is also going on dinner dates with other guys and hasn't made up her mind yet. Or maybe she likes you enough to have nice dinners with you but doesn't find you attractive enough to have sex with.

Adults often go on good dates repeatedly without ending up with sex or a relationship. Adults even engage in "dating" and sexual innuendo for fun if there is no possibility of anything happening--it's called flirting. Adults do that because it's fun and because they have enough maturity to keep their emotions in check. If you can't deal with that, it's you who's a "socially inept, clueless nerd".

And the gene they used for testing this idea generally increases pain sensitivity, not just emotional sensitivity--and most people lack it. You probably lack it too.

Re:isn't this obvious? (4, Insightful)

Jafafa Hots (580169) | about 5 years ago | (#29154367)

Shit... I've been hit by a pickup truck, had a shattered pelvis, fractured skull, internal injuries. Had to learn to walk again. Went through withdrawal from Demerol. Had a total bowel obstruction that required emergency surgery. Had a catheter removed without the little balloon being deflated first.
Broke my arm four times. Had a barium enema (doesn't sound like much but those fuckers HURT)

Those things took from days to months to repair and grow adequate scar tissue.

Broken heart? Well, I think I'm pretty much over it now... and it's only been 25 years. (Well, I'm over when she's not around anyway...)

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

Jafafa Hots (580169) | about 5 years ago | (#29154389)

OH yeah, forgot the burst eardrum from an ear infection... um... oh yeah, the concussion and cracked ribs from another accident...

shit. I think maybe I should be more careful.

Re:isn't this obvious? (5, Funny)

wgoodman (1109297) | about 5 years ago | (#29154491)

you're just trying to distract yourself from thinking about her.. i know the feeling :/

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

phillips321 (955784) | about 5 years ago | (#29154781)

I tore my ear drum in a rugby accident where i got my jaw dislocated. It didn't so much hurt, it more pissed me off that the constant ringing would just not go the fuck away!!!!

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

Sulphur (1548251) | about 5 years ago | (#29154807)

Did it break your heart to quit jumping motorcycles?

--

We sold O.J. the knife.

Re:isn't this obvious? (4, Funny)

PopeRatzo (965947) | about 5 years ago | (#29154999)

Shit... I've been hit by a pickup truck, had a shattered pelvis, fractured skull...

That's nothing. I've had my eyes plucked out by rabid bats. I've all my fingers broken, heal badly, and then broken again with a nutcracker. I've had my head chopped off and sewn back on backwards, only to have it done all over again after the lawsuit. I've had the skin on my penis peeled back like a banana with lasers and BBQ tongs.

A broken heart? I don't get them, I give them.

Re:isn't this obvious? (5, Interesting)

Cylix (55374) | about 5 years ago | (#29155225)

That's nothing...

I've had my intestines removed and used as a personal restraining device. All of my toes and fingers removed and subsequently re-attached to one hand. Said hand was than forcefully punched into my own face with some guy shouting, "Stop hitting yourself" over and over. After that was over I had my abdomen sliced open by a light saber and some Jedi Knight used my womb to shelter from the cold for hours.

A broken heart? I really do miss that Jedi

Re:isn't this obvious? (4, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154527)

Dude sounds like you're better off staying in the basement

Re:isn't this obvious? (5, Funny)

ijakings (982830) | about 5 years ago | (#29154537)

No offense dude, but im pretty sure god is trying to kill you

Re:isn't this obvious? (2, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154695)

No I'm not.

Re:isn't this obvious? (5, Funny)

Dan541 (1032000) | about 5 years ago | (#29154767)

Considering he once downed the entire world, I'd say he's no longer on top of his game.

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

Kjella (173770) | about 5 years ago | (#29154959)

0 AD called and want their news back... didn't you hear he got soft when he became a family man?

Re:isn't this obvious? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154603)

Lemme guess, your name is "Lucky"

Re:isn't this obvious? (1)

wgoodman (1109297) | about 5 years ago | (#29154487)

i agree. Actually, when the girl who currently hurts my brain, throws me a curve, it plays all sorts of hell with me and various systems. I end up somewhat physically ill over it all. I'd much rather put another nail trough my hand than deal with the suckage of a broken heart.

Not funny (1, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154311)

I've lost several close family members in the past year. I used to be part of a big happy close family and now I find myself alone. The pain and suffering I have endured are real. I would not wish this misfortune upon anyone.

The âz of my angst / the 0 of your compassion (0, Troll)

RSKennan (835119) | about 5 years ago | (#29154327)

The meanness in this thread hurts my feelings. I think that it hurts a lot of other Slashdotter's feelings too, which is why they aren't posting. And that makes me sad. OH LOARDY WHY DOES IT HURT SO BAD????

Does this mean (2, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154345)

Does this mean I can sue when I get dumped?

Re:Does this mean (1, Funny)

SlashWombat (1227578) | about 5 years ago | (#29154371)

As a /.er, you have to get a girlfriend before you can move to the "dump" phase.

Re:Does this mean (1)

cprocjr (1237004) | about 5 years ago | (#29154375)

You can sue for anything, it doesn't mean that you will win.

Re:Does this mean (1)

commodore64_love (1445365) | about 5 years ago | (#29154873)

You don't need to win. You just have to scare your victim (ex-girl) and harass them into wasting their time, money, and effort fighting the case. Ask RIAA. They've perfected this tactic.

Re:Does this mean (1)

youn (1516637) | about 5 years ago | (#29154627)

You'll have to have the gene and sue in texas where they apparently seem to accept any type of lawsuit.

WOW Players (1)

LordAndrewSama (1216602) | about 5 years ago | (#29154363)

This is why it hurts when your character dies...

Well now the war mongers know what to do..... (1)

3seas (184403) | about 5 years ago | (#29154379)

... to increase their profits.

Invest in gene detection of that specific gene and use the knowledge...to instigate profit generation.

1) exclude
2) cause hurt
3) profit

Re:Well now the war mongers know what to do..... (1)

bensafrickingenius (828123) | about 5 years ago | (#29155233)

I AM a war monger, you insensitive clod! (first /. post from my kindle!)

Timmy !! (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154383)

Timmy !! Timmy !! Timmy !!

Tiiimmmmeeeeeh !!

A General Theory Of Love (2, Informative)

tunapez (1161697) | about 5 years ago | (#29154385)

Great book on this very subject, very insightful. Don't let the title dissuade you, it is actually chock full of empirical data and good lessons in anatomy and the psyche.
A General Theory Of Love [amazon.com]

Re:A General Theory Of Love (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29155103)

I'm not sure, if I want to understand love. I'm afraid it takes away the magic.
Yes, I'm in love and a few weeks ago I felt pain and narrowness in my chest due to it and it felt hard to breathe at times, so I'm maybe one of these gene emo's, but like I said, i rather not think about it and stick with magic. lol.

Oblig. Simpsons quote: (4, Funny)

benwiggy (1262536) | about 5 years ago | (#29154391)

"You may say she died of a ruptured ventricle; but I know she died of a broken heart."

I could've saved them some money (1)

93 Escort Wagon (326346) | about 5 years ago | (#29154395)

Apparently these folks are so busy doing research they've never taken the time to get into a relationship, let alone get their heart broken. If they had, they'd know it hurts without requiring research funding to "prove" it.

Heck, I've been married over two decades, happily for the most part - but I still remember how much heartbreak hurts even after all that time...

Re:I could've saved them some money (2, Insightful)

elbobo (28495) | about 5 years ago | (#29154917)

That's not the point. There's plenty of things we can observe as apparent fact. The research is to work out the how and why.

Sometimes that research confirms what we hold to be self evident truths while providing an empirical description of the functioning of the phenomenon, and sometimes it shows the truth to be false, based on misconception or otherwise.

The research is important; knowledge and understanding is important.

Makes Sense... (4, Informative)

BJ_Covert_Action (1499847) | about 5 years ago | (#29154397)

Not to undermine the work of the researchers but this makes sense from a theoretical standpoint in terms of evolution. Humans as social creatures that reproduce sexually. It makes sense that, over the years, those individual genes that allowed humans to learn to flinch away from social stigmatization and learn from sexual/romantic rejection would survive more generations than those that didn't as, such genes would produce more socially acceptable creatures. For the human species, being socially acceptable is an instinctual desire as we tend towards the safety in numbers lifestyle. Loners, stragglers, and folks that never learned that rejection is a *bad* thing would/could have been picked off by predators easier and such. Hopefully, of course, that doesn't mean that slashdotters will start dying off anytime soon.

All jokes aside, though, I think I would have been more surprised to have learned that heartbreak and social rejection does not cause some kind of negative reinforcement within the human psyche. It is, of course, still interesting research.

Re:Makes Sense... (4, Funny)

jameskojiro (705701) | about 5 years ago | (#29154415)

NO NO NO, God designed us 6,000 years ago to feel real pain on rejection from other humans because he is a sadistic control freak.

You people who reject the Bible's completely 100% accuracy really sicken me, how dare you attempt to think logically and critically!!!!

Re:Makes Sense... (2, Insightful)

sumdumass (711423) | about 5 years ago | (#29154563)

Isn't it logical to think that society as we know it is shaped because of feelings and pain we as a species experience? Your reality would be entirely different if that wasn't true. It is an intended outcome.

Re:Makes Sense... (0, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154595)

Yes yes If only god existed and was benevolent we would live in a world as perfect and as pleasant as the one described in "brave new world".

Re:Makes Sense... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154489)

I would posit that for the people with the stronger version of this gene, it does cause negative reinforcement. Certainly I've learned to avoid heartbreak because it hurts enough to be distracting to me. Never broken a bone, but I've injured myself plenty, and nothing can compare.

Re:Makes Sense... (1)

wisty (1335733) | about 5 years ago | (#29154499)

It's not just about being picked off by predators. The real advantage of humans is that we are *smart*, and can communicate better than the other smart chimps. It's not much good having decent vocal chords if you're just going to ignore your fellow man.

Re:Makes Sense... (2, Informative)

Biogenesis (670772) | about 5 years ago | (#29154815)

This finding also supports earlier research which showed the area of the brain associated with pain lighting up due to social rejection. There's a PDF from 2007 [ucla.edu] which describes the earlier research. It was also reported on the Australian Science show Catalyst.

Re:Makes Sense... (1)

amayain (1186069) | about 5 years ago | (#29154939)

It's called sociometer theory- developed by Mark Leary. Basic theory is that self-esteem functions to monitor the social world and detect signs of rejection. If we percieve rejection, we take a blow to our self-esteem and conseuqnetly feel bad. Ideally, that bad feeling should motivate us to fix whatever problem is causing that rejection. http://www.psychwiki.com/wiki/Sociometer_Theory [psychwiki.com]

Re:Makes Sense... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29155085)

What the fuck are you talking about. When I sense rejection, I take steps to make the world adapt to me.

Re:Makes Sense... (1)

Kjella (173770) | about 5 years ago | (#29155079)

Loners, stragglers, and folks that never learned that rejection is a *bad* thing would/could have been picked off by predators easier and such. Hopefully, of course, that doesn't mean that slashdotters will start dying off anytime soon.

I don't think so because evolution isn't a 100% direct decendant game. If you help your family, you help your genes. These days I feel absolutely no genetic relation to the people that live around me apart from being homo sapiens since I live in downtown of a large city with lots of immigrants, But for no more than 200 years ago, chances were very high that most everyone you knew came from the local village and their ascendants too. In some branches of our family we have records dating back to the 16th century and there's a lot of "married with [name] from [farm] nearby". What does that mean for evolution? Well I think it means it has been useful to produce outliers - people that contribute indirectly. Do you have a good village "wise woman" who knows plenty herbs and cures so that more children grow up? Evolutionary plus. How about the guy who built better traps so there'd be more food for the tribe in the winter? Evolutionary plus. These days it's not the same because it's likely to spread worldwide, but it shoujd be in our genes. Our society today is probably wildly imbalanced compared to our genetics - what reproduces the most today are people that want to have ten children because now they can, while before it just wasn't possible with so many mouths to feed.

Painkillers? (4, Insightful)

dunkelfalke (91624) | about 5 years ago | (#29154417)

Does it mean that painkillers like Ibuprofen would help to lessen the pain of being dumped? That is a kind of an acute issue for me right now.

Re:Painkillers? (1, Interesting)

BiggerIsBetter (682164) | about 5 years ago | (#29154435)

Pain killers like the kind your brain gives you when you get laid would work better. Seriously, go have some meaningless sex - it WILL help.

Re:Painkillers? (5, Interesting)

wgoodman (1109297) | about 5 years ago | (#29154497)

Some of us actually don't really go for the meaningless sex all that much.. i've given it a go, but i'd much rather actually feel something for the person i'm giving it to..

Re:Painkillers? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154671)

There's a simple solution: love everyone in the world. And no, you don't need to be a dirty hippie to do so. And yes, it will also help with a lot of other things.

Re:Painkillers? (0, Troll)

thetoadwarrior (1268702) | about 5 years ago | (#29154747)

That's gay.

It's not like he said find the dirtiest skankiest piece of pussy in the area and fuck it and meaningless sex is a lot healthier than curing your problems with pills. Pill poppers don't get more respect than people that have one night stands so you have it a bit backwards.

Re:Painkillers? (1)

commodore64_love (1445365) | about 5 years ago | (#29154889)

Then goto domai.com, click on the "newletter" link, and enjoy the photos. Self-pleasuring releases the same painkilling endorphins as actual sex.

Re:Painkillers? (1)

elbobo (28495) | about 5 years ago | (#29154921)

That's probably because you suck at sex ;)

I'm only half kidding. For sex without love to be worth it it really helps to get it right. Crap sex with love is still worth having; crap sex without love is often just crap.

Re:Painkillers? (3, Insightful)

value_added (719364) | about 5 years ago | (#29154689)

Pain killers like the kind your brain gives you when you get laid would work better. Seriously, go have some meaningless sex - it WILL help.

Mod parent up. I've had my heart broken a few times, but there's usually one relationship that kills you the most, and it's that one that lingers throughout your life.

At the time, I tried working longer hours, regularly drinking heavily, lots of drugs, socialising with friends, going for long solitary walks ... you name it. Distractions like working longer hours do help (provided you're past the "I'm out of my mind with grief and want to kill myself and take everyone with me" stage, but anonymous sex beats the other methods by a mile.

You'll earn bonus points if your anonymous sex partner is especially pretty; you tend to experience everything with heightened awareness in the first few weeks or months, so chances are high you'll remember your partner's face and body (and possibly her name). Being able to move very far away earns you the Daily Double, just so long as you don't risk losing everything by travelling back in the first few years to wallow in the nostalgia.

When all is done and you've moved on with your life, be sure to watch or listen to some Sam Kinison [youtube.com] videos from time to time to keep things in "perspective".

Re:Painkillers? (3, Interesting)

elbobo (28495) | about 5 years ago | (#29154925)

Those are the two things I applied a year ago (and am still applying) to get over a broken heart. I left my country, started travelling and kept travelling, and have shagged lots of different lovely girls along the way. It really works. And I've met some great people.

Re:Painkillers? (2, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29155157)

Hey, he's not one of us any more! Get him!

Re:Painkillers? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154457)

Does it mean that painkillers like Ibuprofen would help to lessen the pain of being dumped?

"Alcohol -- still your best drug value."

Re:Painkillers? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154461)

Alcohol, the cause of, and soluton to all of life's problems!

Re:Painkillers? (1)

Aliotroph (1297659) | about 5 years ago | (#29154539)

Hehe, I was going to say that, but it took me too long to remember what my password was. Yeah, I agree. Tasty beer is a good painkiller.

Re:Painkillers? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154553)

benadryl is far cheaper good sir :)

Re:Painkillers? (1)

WillDraven (760005) | about 5 years ago | (#29155021)

Ergh. Maybe in small doses to help you sleep. In larger doses diphenhydramine causes auditory hallucinations. Not a good idea for somebody already emotionally unstable.

Re:Painkillers? (1)

CharlyFoxtrot (1607527) | about 5 years ago | (#29154951)

"Alcohol -- still your best drug value."

Yeah that's what you need when you're in emotional turmoil: lots and lots of a depressant [about.com] . What may help is the social aspect of drinking since it's usually done with friends and the fact that it relaxes you enough to let the emotion out, not the alcohol itself. It's called "crying in your beer" for a reason.

Re:Painkillers? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154883)

Does it mean that painkillers like Ibuprofen would help to lessen the pain of being dumped? That is a kind of an acute issue for me right now.

Sure you are /.'er? Being dumped means you've actually had a girlfriend :) Still, the worst pain ever... Hear you bro...

Re:Painkillers? (1)

CharlyFoxtrot (1607527) | about 5 years ago | (#29154927)

Does it mean that painkillers like Ibuprofen would help to lessen the pain of being dumped? That is a kind of an acute issue for me right now.

Yes, a whole bottle of painkillers at once and you'll never feel pain again. That'll show them all !

Re:Painkillers? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29155149)

I wouldn't take a drug to alleviate pain that is caused by a psychological problem. It will just reinforce your brain to use drugs as a coping mechanism whenever things get difficult.

My breakup strategy (1)

PIPBoy3000 (619296) | about 5 years ago | (#29155213)

Fortunately it's been many years since I last went through the breakup blues, but I ended up coming up with a list of things that seemed to help.
  • Indulge. I typically start by throwing my normal rules out the window and use short-term strategies to make myself happier. Buy something. Eat cheesecake. Don't get in the habit of doing so, but it helps the first few days.
  • Maintain your health. This means eating for me, as I usually stop when depressed. It also means exercise in moderation, sleep, and so on.
  • Socialize. I always make sure I'm around someone, friends and family, as it's too easy to be depressed when alone.
  • Meet someone new. This is obviously the eventual end goal, but there's nothing like another romance to ease the hurt of the last one. Don't rush into the next, though, as you may end up jumping from one failed relationship to the next.

It's Okay.... (2, Funny)

thephydes (727739) | about 5 years ago | (#29154427)

most slashdotters are socially inept, so a broken OS is more likely to produce pain than a broken heart

Re:It's Okay.... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154585)

Broken OS = broken heart

Re:It's Okay.... (3, Funny)

CharlyFoxtrot (1607527) | about 5 years ago | (#29154979)

It's OK, I use a unix based OS which means I have to reboot my computer about as often as I get laid. So ronery [imagepoop.com] .

You left one part out. (5, Funny)

FlyingSquidStudios (1031284) | about 5 years ago | (#29154467)

The Psychologists later added, "if you're a total pussy."

Well, duh. We've all felt the... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154471)

...good ol' lump in the throat, the straining sensation in the chest, the focused, sharp sensation that is extreme worry over someone you care for, and so on.

I believe this was not even newsworthy 2000 years ago :)

Sounds like they isolated the "whiner" gene. (4, Interesting)

znerk (1162519) | about 5 years ago | (#29154551)

The article seems to state that those who reported higher levels of physical pain also reported more easily feeling rejected in a social situation. Therefore, it stands to reason (at least to me) that they have isolated the gene which causes people to complain, rather than any link between physical pain and emotional distress.

Yeah, I know, what kind of slashdotter am I, if I actually RTFA?

Thanks Slashdot. (4, Interesting)

Goalie_Ca (584234) | about 5 years ago | (#29154573)

I just got home. It's 3:30 am. I missed my bus. I cockblocked her "ex" or whatever he is all the way to the bedroom door. Had a brief chat (clenched fist ready to pound the shit out of him) but really it was both of them and not him alone. I need to be able to trust her too! I walked the fuck out at first swearing like a mother fucker in my best québécois i know all the way down broadway street vancouver. I finally calmed down enough to feel the pain. It really hurt. I turn on my computer to try and calm down (can't sleep in this state) and wtf do I see? A study that says i feel pain right now. Well duh! I physically feel pain and my gut is wrapped up like a turban.

Re:Thanks Slashdot. (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154813)

I just got home. It's 3:30 am. I missed my bus. I cockblocked her "ex" or whatever he is all the way to the bedroom door. Had a brief chat (clenched fist ready to pound the shit out of him) but really it was both of them and not him alone. I need to be able to trust her too!

what?

Re:Thanks Slashdot. (4, Informative)

Lumpy (12016) | about 5 years ago | (#29155105)

dude, kick her to the curb, because you will feel that again and she WILL do it to you again.

If you like feeling betrayed, stay with her. If you want to stop the pain, throw her and all her crap out the door. There are 10,000 more just for you that are far better than she is. Out there waiting for you.

acting as if money is still worth less billybucks (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154725)

http://www.cnn.com/2009/POLITICS/08/22/veterans.affairs.bonuses/index.html

As for me (1)

dandart (1274360) | about 5 years ago | (#29154743)

I've got less of the physical, more of the social pain usually.

Re:As for me (3, Interesting)

buck-yar (164658) | about 5 years ago | (#29154795)

Yeah me too. Found out my problem was not enough exercise. I've hit the workouts harder than I ever have in my life and its minimized the emotional pain. I just feel better in general.

Google Shaun T's Insanity workout. Guaranteed you cannot do it without 10 breaks.

Re:As for me (1)

dandart (1274360) | about 5 years ago | (#29154841)

Wow, that could easily explain it. I'm gonna have to try.

Re:As for me (2, Funny)

pjt33 (739471) | about 5 years ago | (#29155163)

Google Shaun T's Insanity workout. Guaranteed you cannot do it without 10 breaks.

Since the first hit shows that it comes on 11 DVDs, I'll believe you.

Desentisation (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29154771)

Slashdotters still feel bad when they get rejected !!! After all that practice, they should be desentisized.

Consider the source (TFA) (1)

MollyB (162595) | about 5 years ago | (#29154933)

This is from the same page at The Telegraph, UK:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/6049924/Zombies-would-most-likely-wipe-out-humanity-if-they-really-existed-claim-scientists.html [telegraph.co.uk]

How much credibility does this site actually have?

Re:Consider the source (TFA) (1)

dannyof47 (1110775) | about 5 years ago | (#29155091)

At least it's not The Sun

Hmm... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 5 years ago | (#29155147)

it looks they someone's been reading my live journal.

A Broken Hearts Hurts More Than Physical Pain (1)

dan5678 (1622881) | about 5 years ago | (#29155245)

I know from experience that a broken heart hurts more than physical pain.

Broken Hearts (1)

rafaelolg (1248814) | about 5 years ago | (#29155267)

That is some topic about women and relationship that some slashdoters can talk with experience.
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