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Facebook Linked To One In Five Divorces In US

samzenpus posted more than 3 years ago | from the sanctity-of-a-friend-request dept.

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An anonymous reader writes "yes, in theory if you're single, Facebook can help you meet that special someone. But for those in even the healthiest of marriages, improper use can quickly devolve into a marital disaster. A recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that Facebook is cited in one in five divorces in the United States. Also, more than 80 percent of divorce lawyers reported a rising number of people are using social media to engage in extramarital affairs."

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What percentage use FB again? (4, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348538)

Saying that divorces are linked to Facebook is like saying car purchases are linked to internet usage.

Re:What percentage use FB again? (1)

Enigma23 (460910) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348688)

Saying that divorces are linked to Facebook is like saying car purchases are linked to internet usage.

Quite. One in five divorces cite Farcebook because one in ten people worldwide (~600 million) use Facebook, which is probably more like one in six/seven in the USA; the chances are very high that if one half of a couple uses FB then so does the other...

Re:What percentage use FB again? (5, Informative)

croddy (659025) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348834)

The methodology is worse than that; I ran across this statistic a couple of weeks ago and tracked it down through some hellish chain of blog posts and it turns out that the way this was determined was searching a list of divorce court documents for the word "Facebook" and about 20% matched the string. Any divorce filing containing the string "Facebook" was coded as a divorce linked to Facebook.

The most encouraging thing about this is that it sort of indicates that Facebook has only infiltrated about 20% of marriages.

Re:What percentage use FB again? (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349020)

Greater than 99% of divorces are linked to heterosexual couples.

Re:What percentage use FB again? (1)

Jeff DeMaagd (2015) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348844)

Farcebook

I assume typo as you didn't repeat it. I thought the name is amusing.

But I agree, it's pretty bogus. Who is to say these marriages won't eventually break up for a different reason? Or, like the adage of straw on a camel, you might name the straw that broke its back, but that ignores the accumulated problems.

Re:Bogus (2)

TaoPhoenix (980487) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348910)

Is this the Peer Reviewed research that our academic publishers are claiming deserves high fees for? What happened to outrage at bad methodology?

P.S. Bill and Ted like this.

Re:What percentage use FB again? (1)

poetmatt (793785) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348782)

120% of studies that are designed to be misleading end up with 250% bogus numbers.

Re:What percentage use FB again? (1)

jhoegl (638955) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348916)

Statistics can be used to prove anything Kent, 15% of all people know that - Homer Simpson.

Re:What percentage use FB again? (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349452)

True, but that doesn't change the fact that FB is for losers.

It's just a part of peoples lives (5, Insightful)

dmomo (256005) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348558)

This is a common way for people to communicate. Facebook is going to be "linked to" everything as long as this is a fact.

In other news:
Facebook is linked to 50% of parties. Facebook is linked to 80% of weddings. Facebook is linked to 100% of political. Facebook is linked to 65% of friendships. Facebook is linked to 90% of people liking stuff.

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (3, Informative)

Toe, The (545098) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348612)

In other news:
Facebook is linked to 50% of parties. Facebook is linked to 80% of weddings. Facebook is linked to 100% of political. Facebook is linked to 65% of friendships. Facebook is linked to 90% of people liking stuff.

Parties, weddings, politics, friendships, and people liking stuff are... all linked to divorce.

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (5, Insightful)

Nadaka (224565) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348728)

One thing is more linked with divorce than anything else, marriage. 100% of divorces are caused by marriage.

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (0)

Locke2005 (849178) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348752)

Once again, kiddies: Correlation does not imply causation!

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (5, Informative)

Dusty101 (765661) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349298)

Once again, kiddies: Correlation does not imply causation!

Actually, at the risk of being identified as pedantic, correlation does not *automatically* imply causation. It might, however, still suggest it.

I still agree with the gist of the parent & grandparent posts' point regarding this particular story, though.

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (2)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348826)

Amen. 50% of marriages end in divorce, the other 50% end in death. Your odds are not good - for God's sake, don't get married!

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (1)

rishistar (662278) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349016)

Just because its part of peoples lives doesn't mean its linked to things. Slashdot is part of all our lives, but linked to 0% of marriages. Probably!

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (1)

Krau Ming (1620473) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349062)

But SD is 6% related to people getting busted at work for screwing around on the internet instead of working...then getting fired will surely catalyze a divorce.

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (2)

mldi (1598123) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349194)

You forgot about CmdrTaco [slashdot.org]!

Re:It's just a part of peoples lives (1)

kelemvor4 (1980226) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349374)

Did you guys even read the article? I'll answer for you: No. It doesn't say one in five people who get divorced happen to use facebook. It says "Facebook is cited in one in five divorces in the United States" Meaning, the divorce complaint specifically mentioned facebook.

And this is news? (5, Insightful)

timholman (71886) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348572)

I'd be willing to bet that the use of the telephone (one of the greatest social inventions of all time) is linked to just about 100% of all divorces, as well.

What is it with everyone trying to blame Facebook and Craigslist for all the ills of the world? They are tools, and nothing more. But they are new, and so I guess that makes them suspicious, doesn't it?

Re:And this is news? (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348600)

Telephones have better privacy controls.

Facebook's tendency to make it easy to leak information you didn't intend probably leads to divorces much more efficiently than telephones.

Re:And this is news? (2)

SpryGuy (206254) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348702)

Modern telephones, with text messaging and call history (frequently available on the web as well, or via an app) don't have quite the same privacy as the old POTS dial-up corded phones of the past.

Re:And this is news? (4, Insightful)

DerekLyons (302214) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348792)

What is it with everyone trying to blame Facebook and Craigslist for all the ills of the world? They are tools, and nothing more. But they are new, and so I guess that makes them suspicious, doesn't it?

I'd have thought people interested in technology would be interested in examining how that technology interacts in the real world. I mean, you don't find it interesting that social media is so widely implicated and in what that implies for it's impact on society and the changes as the wired generation reaches adulthood? The positive effects of social media on the current Jasmine Revolution(s) are widely examined and praised here on Slashdot, one would think that the negative effects would be equally interesting.

Re:And this is news? (1)

somersault (912633) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348978)

Things are only interesting as long as they're surprising.

“Look at the population of the people who are your online friends,” Kimmons said. “Is it a good mixture of men and women? Do you spend more time talking to females versus males or do you favor a certain type of friend over another? That can tell you something about how you’re using social networks. You may not even be aware that you’re heading down a road that can get quickly get pretty dangerous, pretty fast to your marriage.”

Another safeguard is to spell out from the beginning with your online contacts what your expectations are of social networking relationships. Also, it’s a good idea to not engage in intimate conversation with someone who is not your spouse.

“If you’re doing this at 2 o’clock in the morning with no one watching because you don’t want anyone else to know about it, that should be a signal to you that this is something approaching a boundary line or you’re at least moving in that direction,” Kimmons said.

Do they really think they have to spell this stuff out to people? The only way relationships can get "dangerous" to your marriage is if you let them, whether online or not.

Re:And this is news? (1)

JSBiff (87824) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349032)

"What is it with everyone trying to blame Facebook and Craigslist for all the ills of the world? They are tools, and nothing more."

I concur, people trying to blame websites for their failed marriages really are tools, and nothing more. Oh, wait. . . you were talking about the websites. . .

Ambiguous pronouns are SO much FUN. . .

Why they get the blame (1)

MikeRT (947531) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349338)

What is it with everyone trying to blame Facebook and Craigslist for all the ills of the world? They are tools, and nothing more.

Because the alternative is to admit that the real moral culpability is with the user of said tool and our society can't stand the idea of actually being "judgmental" toward someone who actually cheats on their spouse. Even that is asking too much since many Americans now stridently denounce you for being "judgmental" for even saying that you have to be a pile of dog $H%& as a human being to cheat on your spouse or break up your family just because you find your spouse "boring" (not abusive, just not interesting).

The mainstream media simultaneously celebrates the divorce culture as "women's empowerment" and then wonders why many men are turning to pickup artists and douchebaggery instead of emulating Ward Cleaver...

Re:And this is news? (2)

Latinhypercube (935707) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349454)

Wrong. Facebook is actively encouraging this kind of behavior. A phone is a neutral technology. Everytime I hit facebook, there are ads for 'meet singles in your area', or your old school friend has updated her photo's, or some twat has just poked you. Facebook is like crack, and can create a crack in relationships.

So this would be like email, fifteen years ago? (5, Funny)

KublaiKhan (522918) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348576)

I'm fairly sure there were stories like this going around when email became popular, and people started using it to, y'know, communicate with each other.

Before that, cellphones--telephones--hell, I bet even the telegraph was implicated in adultery.

(WHAT.ARE.YOU.WEARING.STOP
SIX.SKIRTS.HOOPS.CRINOLINE.BUSTLE.CHEMISE.HAT.STOP
NO.GLOVES.YOU.NAUGHTY.WENCH.STOP)

And back before that, it was letters.

Anything people have ever used to communicate has been implicated in adultery, because that's sort of how to set up a liason, ain't it?

Re:So this would be like email, fifteen years ago? (1)

JackCroww (733340) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349068)

You, sir, win the Internets for today.

Re:win the internets (1)

TaoPhoenix (980487) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349098)

But before he won the internets, you could sorta keep all that stuff under wraps. Facebook is like a "friendly wikileaks".

Who gets the peace prize?

Re:So this would be like email, fifteen years ago? (2)

Quiet_Desperation (858215) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349082)

It's little known that many of the walls of hieroglyphs in Egyptian ruins are just smutty notes people left one another. They were pretty much the Craigslist "adult services" section of their day.

This, for example: http://humanpast.net/images/hieroglyphics.jpg [humanpast.net]

Translates to "For a hot time contact Lusty Isis in the main market square, next to jewelry vendor. 300 papyrus scrolls for complete experience. 50 scrolls extra for Anubis costume."

It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (5, Insightful)

adonoman (624929) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348588)

If you're in one of the "healthiest of marriages", you're not going to be doing anything on facebook or elsewhere that's going to jeopardize your marriage. I'm not going to be an asshole in person, or online. If you think that something is OK online, but not in real life, then you've got problems.

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (4, Interesting)

Anonymous Monkey (795756) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348868)

It's not quite that simple. Adults tend to become attached to the person of the opposite sex that they spend the most time with. Before facebook and e-mail it was fairly obvious to see who you were spending time with. Now we have tools that make it unnecessary to be physically with some one to feel like you are with them. This can be deceptive for everyone involved. It starts with "I'm not cheating on my wife, I'm must checking an old girlfriends facebook page." But ends up with more personal conversations being had over facebook than in real life with your wife. And it's more deceptive than letters, because if you are writing letters you must get out paper, a pen, an envelope and a stamp, sit down and write, making it obvious how much time you are investing. However, for many people facebook is only as far away as alt-tab, so the amount of time you spend on it isn't as obvious.

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (2)

maxume (22995) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349030)

It still seems fairly simple, the Facebook just happens to make the infidelity a little easier.

(You seem to be saying that the Facebook activity seems harmless at first and then the person doing it ends up somewhere they didn't see themselves going; that's probably true, but I think the fact that they let it happen probably says more about how ready they were to get married than it says about Facebook)

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (2)

Rude Turnip (49495) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349048)

Aaaaannnnd...I'm calling bullshit.

It's dead simple. There is a huge leap between looking at a facebook page of old girlfriends and moving on versus opening your heart up to someone behind your wife's back. A good rule of thumb is that if you can't admit something to your spouse, you're probably doing something that isn't healthy for your relationship. It's not the length of time you spend writing or chatting, it's the context and the circumstances.

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (1)

geekoid (135745) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349334)

"There is a huge leap between looking at a facebook page of old girlfriends and moving on versus opening your heart up to someone behind your wife's back. "

true, but BOTH cause divorce.

And the more time you spend with someone, the more attached you become to them.

" good rule of thumb is that if you can't admit something to your spouse, you're probably doing something that isn't healthy for your relationship."

No, not really, its hugely more complex then that. So do you mean "can't" as in I will get into trouble, or 'can't because you uncomfortable to talk with.

And yes, there are subjects that people won't talk to there spouse because they are uncomfortable to do.
These range from Money, to house cleaning, to sexual experimentation. Shuold they talk to their spouse? yes, but society puts certain pressures to behave certain ways so it can be hard.

I highly advise a qualified marriage consoler. I mean someone with a degree, not just some yahoo who tossed their shingle out because all problem can be solved with [insert specific whacko belief here]

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (2)

LWATCDR (28044) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349140)

I don't know if you are correct about being attracted to people you are around or not. You are correct about communications with ex's. On of my ex's contacted me when my mother died. My mother helped her out a lot with financial stuff when her father died 10 years ago. She sent me a very heart felt message and then told me about all the issues she was having in her life.
I really felt bad for her. But knowing her I also knew that she could get the wrong idea if I spent too much time consoling her. Part of becoming and adult is finding that balance in relationships. Being too close to someone can sometimes do more harm than good. That and even then you must always think about how your spouse feels. Your first responsibility is always to your family.
But what it comes down to is Facebook is a tool for communications and what is communicated is the problem not the tool.

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (-1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348886)

Marraige today is slavery for the man. Marraige in the bible is slavery for the girl OR girls (men could have as many women as they wanted, and they could take girls (yes girls), not just "fully developed adult wo-men"). You support modern marraige. I support the biblical stuff. They didn't even have a word for wife: the word translated to wife is actually just woman. Also the husband was ba'al: master. The girl was a slave, an obedient female domestic servant and toy. Exactly what (evil) men want (unlike shithead good men like you).

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (1)

rogueippacket (1977626) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348936)

Agree. Facebook is not the cause here - marriages are difficult, life-long commitments, and technology provides an easy way out for a lot of people who find themselves unhappy and unwilling to work things out with their partner. Everyone has different reasons for divorce, but the moral of this story is simple - don't make a commitment you can't keep, and don't simply give up when things get difficult.

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348960)

If you think that something is OK online, but not in real life, then you've got problems.

Using windows to find naked chicks has worked out ok online. I'm not so sure it's ok in real life, but I don't want to have problems...so I'd better get to it!

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (1)

adonoman (624929) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349102)

Finding porn online is morally no different than renting it at the video store or visiting the local strip club (unless you're also committing copyright infringement at the same time).

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (1)

SirWhoopass (108232) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349076)

I believe Penny Arcade [penny-arcade.com] said it correctly. Anonymity + Audience.

In this case, people are getting hit with the reality that they aren't really that anonymous (or private) on the internet.

Re:It's not facebook's fault you're a jerk (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349176)

'cause nothing says 'healthiest' like repressing basic biological urges.

I am damn tired of a people who are dumb enough to think a man's (and woman's I expect) natural urges make 'em an asshole.

And how many are linked to cars? (3, Informative)

perpenso (1613749) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348592)

Facebook Linked To One In Five Divorces In US

And how many are linked to cars (*), another tool used by those who have decided to be unfaithful?

Yet another time for http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Correlation_does_not_imply_causation [wikipedia.org].

(*) Hey, dumb stories demand a car analogy. :-)

Re:And how many are linked to cars? (3, Interesting)

vux984 (928602) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349012)

My wife signed up to facebook breifly, "friended" a few friends and family, and within a day or two had old boyfriends and male acquaintances trying to get in touch with her to chat etc... it was vaguely unsettling really. I'm sure some were happily adjusted in their own lives and were just interested in catching up... but it was pretty clear some of them were looking to hook up.

Its pretty easy to see how that can get out of hand.

It even seems to be a likely outcome of joining facebook from what I've seen.

And to rebutt your car analogy -- nothing like that happens you buy a new car. I'll concede that cars are also tools that are used by the unfaithful, but the car doesn't have all your exboyfriends in the backseat when you buy it.

Re:And how many are linked to cars? (1)

perpenso (1613749) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349198)

... and within a day or two had old boyfriends and male acquaintances trying to get in touch with her to chat etc... it was vaguely unsettling really. I'm sure some were happily adjusted in their own lives and were just interested in catching up... but it was pretty clear some of them were looking to hook up ...

I guess my point is that such contact does not create the urge to cheat. It merely facilitates an existing urge. So I'm still leaning towards facebook, like a car, just being a tool that facilitates cheating.

it's just a communication medium (1)

Aighearach (97333) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348608)

It's like saying air is implicated because people forced it through their larynx while cheating.

The real take away (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348622)

is that there are no divorce lawyers in Arkansas. according to the AAML website. Is divorce not legal there?

Re:The real take away (2, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348678)

is that there are no divorce lawyers in Arkansas. according to the AAML website. Is divorce not legal there?

Divorce requires a marriage. Marriage requires a license. A license requires the pair to be unrelated.

Sorry, I feel ashamed and guilty for the above but I'm going to press submit anyway.

Re:The real take away (1)

Locke2005 (849178) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348770)

More importantly, when a man and woman in Arkansas get divorced, are they still first cousins?

UNPOSSIBLE! Doesn't fit the narrative. (4, Funny)

NevarMore (248971) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348632)

I thought it was the homosexuals that were a threat to my marriage? You can't possibly get me to accept that now its the Internet and the Facebook that are the real barrier to matrimonial bliss.

Lets be honest, the usual cause of most divorces is the two people in the marriage.

My parents too (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348638)

Living proof right here. My mom bought a brand new computer about five months ago, started staying up late on Facebook every night, my dad accused her of cheating on him and smashed it. She left a few days later and now she's with some guy six states away. Thanks Facebook.

Re:My parents too (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348732)

Obvious troll is wayyyyy too obvious.

Re:My parents too (1)

Nadaka (224565) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349108)

If someone smashed my computer, I sure as hell would dump her. No need for computer wrecking psycho bitches. Hell, I would have to consider the value of my relationship if she "accidentally" infected my computer with a virus more than once.

Easy way to avoid this problem (0, Offtopic)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348654)

Don't get married.

The human animal was never meant and was not designed to be pair-bonded.

Re:Easy way to avoid this problem (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349406)

Or get married to a woman that understands that like I did. We have a crazy healthy marriage (over 5 years now) and we also have other relationships which are sometimes shared between us (my wife is bisexual to boot). We each know what the other is doing, and most of the time we are very encouraging of each other (there's the odd time when one of us see's that the others new partner is going to be a problem, so we protect each other that way too). It's all open and honest and there's no hiding anything. Polyamory, wonderful thing if you can get over your own personal bullshit (jealousy is your problem...you love them right? You want them to be happy right? Does it matter who is making them happy at the moment? Why does it have to be you, that's just being insecure and selfish. When they are with you you still make them happy after all, just like they make you happy). Change your mindset and all sorts of things you never dreamed of having are suddenly possible and attainable :)

Anyhow going off on a tangent. It's nice to know that the only thing that will ruin our marriage is us, not some outside influence or temptation or whatever. We've removed that from the equation and actually have a more full-filling life I think that the typical serial-monogmous couples. Facebook is great for seeking out exes that may be a new/old partner (relationship didn't work before but that doesn't mean it won't work now).

Outside influences (5, Insightful)

morcego (260031) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348666)

Shouldn't people at some point stop blaming outside influences for their own failings ?

I'm happily married. I'm a hardcore gamer, who spend a lot of time online. My wife hates computer games. We make it work fine.
My daughter owns a notebook, spends a lot of time online. I don't have any kind of "network nanny" on her computer. So far, she hasn't committed mass murder in her school.

Go be a husband/wife and a parent. Stop blaming outside influences, computers, games, TV etc for your own failings. Own up to it.

Facebook don't force people to commit adultery. Videogames don't brainwash kids to murder other people. Deal with it.

kids these days... (1)

Thud457 (234763) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348824)

My daughter owns a notebook, spends a lot of time online. I don't have any kind of "network nanny" on her computer. So far, she hasn't committed mass murder in her school.

No, but she has been instrumental in toppling several African governments this month. The consequences will never be the same.

Re:Outside influences (1)

migla (1099771) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348940)

>>Facebook don't force people to commit adultery.

True that. But it sure can probably present the opportunity for someone who's a potential cheater, without which they might have just been married happ... well, ever after, at least.

Not being in contact with other people through facebook or whatever could be likened to security through obscurity, which is *not* the way to go with computers or with relationships.

Re:Outside influences (-1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348984)

If your biggest concern about your daughter's online activities is that she may commit mass murder, I suggest you go be a parent.

Re:Outside influences (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349120)

My daughter owns a notebook

Really? Mine owns several pencils, a bedspread, about a dozen dolls, several Harry Potter posters, and a stuffed bunny rabbit.

A notebook, you say? Perhaps I should get her one of those for her next birthday! Her very own bound book full of note paper...she'll be thrilled!

Facebook is a communication tool. Like a phone. (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348676)

Stop the fucking presses. Telephones are involved in affairs, you know. I've heard of cars being used for extramarital purposes as well.

Re:Facebook is a communication tool. Like a phone. (1)

Locke2005 (849178) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348982)

Sure, but both telephones and car interiors are difficult to clean after you've used them for extramarital purposes...

Your High School Sweetheart V1.0 is now available (2)

RevWaldo (1186281) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348700)

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Re:Your High School Sweetheart V1.0 is now availab (5, Funny)

Nadaka (224565) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348744)

Warning: Virus Detected

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Sensationalism (1)

MobileTatsu-NJG (946591) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348708)

We hate social services that require having friends. We love arguing about correlation and causation. Slashdot serves ads.

Lawyers linked to 80% of divorces in US (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348710)

Yes, in theory, you can get a divorce without a lawyer, but lawyers can help you suck all the money you can from that special someone.

False alarm (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348718)

Facebook causes divorces. That's not good.

Luckily we use slashdot, so we're safe!

Correlation vs Causation does not apply (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35348796)

If you RTFA, you'll see that it's not 1 in 5 people getting divorced are happening to use facebook, it's that they specifically mentioned facebook as a contributing factor to their divorce.

Not a problem in my marriage (1)

Locke2005 (849178) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348842)

I'm too smart to ever have a Facebook account, and my wife is too stupid to set up a Facebook account without assistance...

Re:Not a problem in my marriage (1)

somersault (912633) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349054)

my wife is too stupid

Uh.. yeah. This makes me wonder how many divorces have been instigated by Slashdot posts..

Re:Not a problem in my marriage (1)

royallthefourth (1564389) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349318)

It's not so much Slashdot itself; more like people who describe themselves as "nerd" not only have bad personalities, but a loathing of women.

slashdotters (1)

hynso (1949066) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348846)

slashdotters are prob the only sensible folx that immediately see through this suggestive phrasing bs.

misinterpreted the statistic (2)

e3m4n (947977) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348866)

At first I thought it was basically saying that 20% of all facebook users get a divorce and facebook was the culprit. Now I realize its saying that out of all the divorces, 20% of them claim its due to a connection they made with someone on facebook. I would like to know what percentage these 20% contribute to the entire demographic of married couples on facebook (if both spouses on facebook count as 1). That would give a better perspective on how much an impact facebook has IMO. Whatever the results, I would consider the same impact substantially higher for non-married committed relationships where separation consists of no legal paperwork or drawn out procedures. I'm so old and jaded these days I know the grass is never greener on the other side. Everyone has a list of flaws, marriage is all about finding the person with the flaws you are willing to live with. Leaving a known quantity for an unknown quantity is not really the smartest choice. After 11 yrs of marriage I know that if I leave a mess somewhere I wont get judged over it. Likewise if my wife does something that gets on my nerves I'm over it in 10 minutes anyway. None of that exists in a new relationship. Sure its shiny and new, but eventually that wears off and suddenly you realize there's flaws you might NOT be willing to live with. Acceptance is the most important ingredient for making a relationship survive the long haul. Going with shiny and new, you never know if the other person wont bolt as soon as they find out you fart in bed, or like to work late on projects. Just because you two get along great as pen pals is hardly a basis to completely up-heave ones life.

In other news, Slashdot NOT linked to divorce. (0)

Mesa MIke (1193721) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348892)

Mainly because the typical Slashdot reader has no hope of ever getting married in the first place.

Wow! (1)

Quiet_Desperation (858215) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348930)

In other news, lawyers are linked to 100% of divorces.

In a controversial finding, "Cow Clicker" was directly implicated in 87% of the divorces in the more rural states, and "why can't mah lazy bum hubby git out dere make a billion like that jew kid?" was cited in over 62% of divorces involving blood relatives.

you could also say (1)

lazlo (15906) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348952)

So what they're saying is that, when it comes to divorce, facebook has now made it up to the point where it's 20% as bad for marriage as lawyers?

Facebook is like an earworm (1)

daviskw (32827) | more than 3 years ago | (#35348974)

My wife started using facebook because her coworkers were using it. She was working with them in close quarters all day and then she would come home and talk to them on facebook most of the evening. Its been a year since it ended and I don't yet know if this is going to end in divorce. What I can tell you is that we as people were never evolved to have someone whispering in our ear all day. What makes Facebook in particular and social networking in general dangerous is that you used to have to be close to someone to become attached. Now you only have to be texting them or chatting with them or whatever. It does what the phone never could do: It connects you to anyone you ever met that you can find online.

I'm not saying that this is neccessarily a bad thing. I am saying that we aren't wired for and we aren't prepared for this kind of connectivity.

Re:Facebook is like an earworm (1)

geekoid (135745) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349366)

" I am saying that we aren't wired for and we aren't prepared for this kind of connectivity."

based on....?

Re:Facebook is like an earworm (1)

nelsonal (549144) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349436)

Also people tend to be considerably more frank and open when they percieve themselves to be alone in front of a computer rather than talking to someone face to face. Thus, /b/ and divorces.

Or... (1)

oenone.ablaze (1133385) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349046)

Wow! Facebook must cause divorces! Or, Facebook is now simply a "space" in which social activity takes place for a great many people, and that evidence of illicit affairs and other information unpalatable to a spouse can be found there just as it was previously found in desks, coat pockets, cameras, and inboxes.

RTFA (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349060)

None of you read teh fucking article. Facebook allows intimate communication between man and woman and that sometimes blossoms into sexual affairs. The same thing happens when you fuck a coworker because you are around them all day. You don't start out wanting to cheat. You just talk about personal things all the time until you eventually get close enough to each other that you fuck. Article explains all of this.

Facebook is not generally seen as a medium that facilitates this. It's not as obvious as when your wife is going to lunch every day with some coworker dude and they end up fucking. The point of the article is that Facebook is just as likely to cause an affair. It also explicitly states that the affairs that caused the divorce were started on Facebook. In 20% of divorce cases, they were caused by affairs directly started on Facebook. In most cases, they were probably an old friend from high school.

All of that being said: I've taken steps in my marriage to avoid this. I don't use facebook. My wife has female contacts only. Her male friends are family or mutual friends of ours. I have access to those mens' wives if there is any cheating with my wife.

This does not mitigate the risk of her fucking another woman, however. And for the majority of you that will think that's cool and not cheating: Allow me to dress into womens' clothing, put on a wig and makeup, tape my dick to my taint, and spend a few hours getting your wife off with my hands and mouth. What's the difference?

Re:RTFA (1)

eyenot (102141) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349244)

Your stricture is a harsh and oppressive environment. *heavy breathing* your wife is going to think twice about it at the first opportunity *heavy breathing* she's gonna meet somebody who has what you don't: newness and fun *heavy breathing* because of your repression and the law of forbidden fruit, even thinking about letting him fuck her in the break room is gonna feel better than the same ol you've pigeonholed her into *breathing heavy* and when she finally lets loose and lets him cream her vulnerable pussy, its gonna feel better for her than anything she can remember, all because of you. ... You, and every other schmuck truing to live in a fantasy land of perfect security and shoring it up with bullshit like marriage. Listen to biology: every married man is a wanmabe cuckold.

Oh noes. (1)

eyenot (102141) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349110)

More proof that facebook is a holy roman conspiracy. Quick everybody switch over to handfasting and ICQ before they crush us into a dark age of bondage orgies and skype.

eMail? (1)

angel'o'sphere (80593) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349144)

Well for some stupid reason my GF once read my emails.
And found a naked picture of woman I happen to know.
That was a great outrage :D
We did not divorce, though.
I don't really get why "researchers" waste their time with such bullshit research. As if the couples had not divorced if there was no facebook, lol.
Hm, perhaps to buy advertizing space for layers specialized into divorces?

angel'o'sphere

Casual link != Causal Link (1)

gavron (1300111) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349270)

Sure, Facebook is cited. Did facebook CAUSE the divorce? No. Stupid people who a) are not properly honoring their marriage vows and b) post about it to FB or provider other clues of the infidelity are.

It's time to quit blaming the technology... if you cheat on your spouse... the one to blame is the dummy in the mirror, not the blog you crapped on them with.

E

Marriage Problems in General (2)

BJ_Covert_Action (1499847) | more than 3 years ago | (#35349292)

My Grandma got married a few months back (yes, you read that right). I was talking to one of the ministers at the service, and he was commenting on how he does fewer weddings these days than he used to. I asked him if he thought it might be because people are having more odd-ball weddings, rather than typical church related services. He said he had worried about that at first, but after doing some digging, it just seemed like fewer people were actually interested in marriage. This trend seemed particularly true in younger adults like myself.

That kind of discussion, plus this kind of news, plus my own personal experiences talking to folks makes me wonder if the institution is simply being questioned on a more fundamental level. It always seemed a bit odd to me (though not completely unreasonable) to commit oneself to the company of another single person for the entirety of one's remaining life. I think a lot of younger folks are starting to question that paradigm as well. As such, I think this particular 'study' might just be revealing a symptom of a deeper topic. I think the traditional institution of marriage is on the verge of slipping from being the formal definition. I don't think as many people in the free (kinda) world today are as interested or intrigued by the idea of spending the rest of their lives with one person. One of the great things the internet has done is that it has opened many people to new perspectives and new ideas. There is a lot to learn out there, and there are millions of beautiful people to meet and get to know on whatever level one may desire. I think, in light of these revelations, folks are starting to see that binding oneself to a single mate for the rest of their lives seems a bit, well, boring. If you marry someone when you are, say 22, and after ten years or so, you two have had a good run, and some good times, but things have stagnated, why not let good memories remain good memories, quit while you're ahead, and go meet someone new (if that's what you both want)?

Of course, these are just the musings of my own mind, but it's something to think about. I'd wager that over the next few decades, we are going to see the traditional institution of marriage start to fall from its place as the accepted standard.

Facebook Linked To One In Five Divorces In US (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 3 years ago | (#35349420)

Facebook caused the divorce? Or one spouse found evidence of the other spouse's infidelity through Facebook?

Honestly, the way a thing is said is too damned important. If the fella said it, he was ignorant twice--ignorant in thinking his wife wouldn't find out, and ignorant for not blaming his own damned self for being unfaithful. *

* Yes, I know some women were probably caught. But we know it's the fellas who are predominantly the sinners in this.

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