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Ask Slashdot: Techie Wedding Invitation Ideas?

samzenpus posted more than 2 years ago | from the I-noe-pronounce-you-nerd-and-wife dept.

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Qa32 writes "I am getting married in a few months and being a hardcore techie I wanted to come up with some novel way of making my wedding invite that will truly have even my mom say, 'wow, that was cool.' Has anyone out there done anything similar, or have you thought of something similar you'd like to share? I already have a few: have QR codes, have some basic embedded circuit/plate with wire leads that maybe plays a song when you connect a battery, have a way to turn up a display LCD, etc."

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circuit boards (1, Interesting)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837573)

Circuit boards with the metal bits making up the text, etc, etc, for flare. That'd be awesome.

Re:circuit boards (4, Informative)

benlwilson (983210) | more than 2 years ago | (#38838007)

They don't have to be typical green PCB color either, you can get the solder mask in a few colors. (green,white,red,black,blue)
Also you can get the exposed metal gold or silver plated (not expensive at all).

I quite like gold text on a blank mask, but for a wedding maybe silver on white.

As a rough idea, i recently got 300x PCBs made with gold plating and blank solder mask.
They were 55mm x 58mm and cost ~US$300 from pcbcart.

All you need to do is find someone who's experienced with PCB drawing software.

If you want to go all the way and have a microcontroller and led display, Jameco have 0.7inch 7x5 pixel dot matrix led displays for 75c each in qty of 100.

Re:circuit boards (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38838013)

I did a portrait project etching photos onto circuit boards that worked out pretty well [flickr.com] . Not sure what the options for mass-etching are though?

Um (3, Interesting)

somersault (912633) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837577)

As long as you could respond via email or even Facebook, I'd think anything was cool. I hate sending letters or making calls.

Re:Um (2)

BenJaminus (472372) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837697)

I agree.

For my wedding I sent the invites out as pdfs (batch job in open office to populate the name and then shell script to send the emails) which included a password to a website to RSVP (ie say they're coming, dietary requirements etc).

Re:Um (1)

somersault (912633) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837739)

That's awesome. The website would probably impress the non-geeks (especially if you put a little effort into making the design classy), and the overall concept would impress the geeks.

Re:Um (4, Interesting)

rtb61 (674572) | more than 2 years ago | (#38838015)

Simply send out mini cds with a video invite and request a video response. Compile all the responses (positive) with the invite and make it all part of the wedding DVD. Could also be done with small thumb drives they are pretty cheap now, but if the mini cd is commercially printed it can be made more appealing.

Have tattooing equipment brought to the wedding and have each guest carve a reminder of the committing required to make a marriage last on the backs of the bride and groom ;D.

Christ , for a wedding you need to make an effort (5, Insightful)

Viol8 (599362) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837883)

If you're getting married and want your friends and family to come I don't think its asking too much to use a phone, get a pen out or even get proper invitations created that you send by snailmail. Doing it online is all very well but just like email xmas cards , it really sends out a kind of "meh , whatever" message - that you couldn't really be bothered to make much effort and 1 minute in front of a PC is all your F & F are worth.

Well, looks like you did one thing right.... (5, Funny)

raehl (609729) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837581)

...at least you didn't propose on Slashdot.

Re:Well, looks like you did one thing right.... (-1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837757)

I c what u did there.

Re:Well, looks like you did one thing right.... (5, Insightful)

Ihmhi (1206036) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837773)

Just because CmdrTaco left doesn't mean that he doesn't still have access to the Geeknet Orbital Ion Cannon...

Expect a knock on the door... (5, Insightful)

lewko (195646) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837585)

If you send your wire-laden invitation to anyone's workplace and they have mailscanning, the building will likely be evacuated, your invitation destroyed and someone will be pissed off at you for not inviting them to your wedding.

Keep It Simple (5, Insightful)

excelblue (739986) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837589)

It's a wedding. Those are supposed to be big, formal events.

Sure, you can have a bit of fun, but you got to keep in mind that not everyone is necessarily a geek. The QR code by itself, coupled with an otherwise elegant card, will more than suffice and drive across the point that you're geeky.

Re:Keep It Simple (5, Insightful)

mikael_j (106439) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837601)

Why are they supposed to be "big, formal events"?

Re:Keep It Simple (1)

somersault (912633) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837713)

Exactly. My favourite wedding was my uncle's - we hired out a small mansion/hotel for a weekend and just had a family get together :)

Re:Keep It Simple (2)

Rhaban (987410) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837721)

Exactly. My favourite wedding was my uncle's - we hired out a small mansion/hotel for a weekend and just had a family get together :)

That's what I call a big, formal event.

Re:Keep It Simple (1)

somersault (912633) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837767)

It wasn't big or formal - there were less than 20 of us including the bride and groom. We just had fun being together all weekend, with maybe 5 minutes of ceremony.

Re:Keep It Simple (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837723)

Because the bride to be has been planning this day since she was, oh, I don't know, 2?

Re:Keep It Simple (4, Interesting)

somersault (912633) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837821)

If it's a geek bride, probably not. They tend to have brains and realise that there are more important things than imagining a day of attention seeking. It's bizarre to me to place so much importance on the act of getting married before you even know who you're going to be marrying

  If you fall in love with someone and want to commit the rest of your life to them, then by all means daydream about your wedding day - but it's insane to place so much emphasis on the wedding itself when you've not even met someone you want to marry. In fact it makes it more likely you'll get married just so that you can carry out your fantasy wedding.

The day itself is not important, what is important is the lifetime commitment that it signifies. If people put as much effort into keeping their marriages going as they did for the average wedding, then maybe less would end in divorce.

Wow, I'm trolling hard today.. but I can't help it when it comes to this type of groupthink.

Re:Keep It Simple (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38838009)

"The day itself is not important."

Yeah - a 'geek bride' wouldn't care about this sentimental stuff. 'Cause she's your perfect, understanding, l33t aspie girl, who want to see your pokemans.

Re:Keep It Simple (5, Insightful)

Inda (580031) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837845)

Mine was a tiny event. Very close friends, only family that talk to us. No grandparents, no uncles, no one who just likes a free day out.

35 people witnessing _our_ day was perfect.

Married at 12:00pm. All done by 4:00pm. The evening to ourselves. No one drunk. No one arguing. No tiredness. No excess. No shite music. No debt to pay off over the next ten years.

I'd recommend that type of wedding to everyone.

It's our 15th year of being together

Re:Keep It Simple (5, Insightful)

Joce640k (829181) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837963)

No debt to pay off over the next ten years. I'd recommend that type of wedding to everyone.

Edited to emphasize the important bit.

Re:Keep It Simple (1)

neyla (2455118) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837803)

Oh, they're "supposed" to be, are they ? Says who ? (obviously you consider the opinion of the people getting married irrelevant, since that's who is asking in the first place)

Here's a hint: arranging a wedding is entirely optional to do at all. And if you *do* choose to arrange one, you're free to do it precisely as you want.

Re:Keep It Simple (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837951)

Ours was simple - really, My wife, her mother, a friend and myself. Anything more is:

a) a waste of money
b) not required

Nuff said.

Re:Keep It Simple (4, Insightful)

mwvdlee (775178) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837903)

Weddings, IMHO, are supposed to be for the bride and groom (or whatever combination you prefer).
If that includes doing geeky things then by all means make it as geeky as you want.

3D printed invitations (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837593)

If not much text and cost is not a problem you can get a pretty unique one. You can design it yourself and order it from sites like Ponoko or Shapeways.

QR Codes (4, Funny)

lewko (195646) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837595)

On a fucking wedding invitation? Are you planning on having any of your parents' friends attending?

Boy does your Wife have some work to do...

Re:QR Codes (2)

Chayat (2550860) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837693)

Maybe QR code repeated around the edge of the invitation? then to a lay person it'd look like decoration.

Quite (1)

Viol8 (599362) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837907)

I'm surprised he hasn't thought also about having the priest/vicar/whoever do it via skype on an iPad or something equally lame.

Re:QR Codes (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837959)

I don't get the big deal. It's just a fucking wedding. Invite some people. Do some shit. Go the fuck home. Don't make it a fucking superbowl.

Easter Eggs (5, Interesting)

Zelucifer (740431) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837605)

Assuming your friends and/or relatives are also into technology, why not keep the card relatively simple, but throw in an easter egg or two? Just as an example, embed a RFID chip and have it setup to react to NFC's embedded in phones. Include a subtle hint on the card, and perhaps make a puzzle out of it.

Tend to agree (5, Interesting)

Kupfernigk (1190345) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837731)

I would have modded this up, but I'd like to observe why this is a good idea. If you embed an NFC chip you can put in a link to a website where people can respond to the invitation. Geeks may like it, older and stuffy relatives won't be aware of it (QR codes could seriously worry or upset the technophobic generation.)

You could also have some things at the reception that are triggered off by sensing the NFC chip - again, entertain the younger generation without worrying the older one.

Or, you know - you could just have an absolutely straight wedding with no techno toys at all. A friend of ours got married recently and had a cartoonist to make sketches during the wedding and the reception. The resulting sketchbook was far more popular (and memorable) than the photos or the video.

Re:Easter Eggs (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837813)

An easter egg? like qrcode for your favorite goatse mirror?

are all the guests geeky? (1)

Chayat (2550860) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837619)

make the invite an ARG? you do run the risk of not having any guests show up though.

Hmm (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837629)

For most people, giving a card with all the details on it works.

You can keep QR codes if you want to redirect them to a website, or RSVP URLs, etc. but if they can do that, might as well send them an email.

How about fun rather than high tech? (1)

91degrees (207121) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837649)

Not so much techy, but would appeal to the geeks is some sort of pop-out/foldable things that makes something.... Kinda like this business card [cardonizer.com] . Or maybe something where you slide an insert to reveal the message.

My ideas are rubbish but maybe others will have suggestions along these lines.

Another broken marriage... (5, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837655)

I am married and I can tell you that it is almost impossible to continue with beeing geek after a marriage. When you get a wife that needs attention and maybe some kids after some time and you are becoming responsible for maintaining them, it is very little time left.

A big love for geek things will be in contradiction to marriage in one way or another. My tips is to drop the geek things already now or reconsider if you should marry at all.

Re:Another broken marriage... (4, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837745)

You sound like you regret your decision, so I leave this advice. You can always leave her. And yes, even if you have kids .No matter what she may think you still have rights and can see your own children no matter what as long as you're not a threat to them. Also, making you give up things that you enjoy just because she's bored is a deal-breaker. You probably can't engage in them as much as you did when you were single, but you shouldn't have to stop whatever you're doing just to entertain her. I'm sure you didn't think for a moment that you entire life as you knew it would come to a standstill the moment you said those vows. It shouldn't at all be that way. That's not fair for anyone to be forced to do. in a marriage, two people should be able to exist within a CO-DEPENDENT relationship. Not one where you're looked at to provide everything and she's entrely dependent on you emotionally, physically, financially... etc. etc. etc.

This from a father, happily separated from his abusive wife and seeking to work out joint custody of his two children through the court system. A very hard time in my life, but it feel sooooo much better than spending every day trying to be someone I'm not for someone who doesn't appreciate me enough to to anything I ask of them the same way I bent over backwards for her.

Re:Another broken marriage... (4, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837797)

No, I am not regretting and I was prepared that geekness is not compatible with marriage.

Marriage means that you are not living in your mothers basement anymore. Marriage means that you are at least 8 hours 5 days a week away from home plus the time it takes to travel to work, because you need to maintain yourself. When you get home, nobody is cleaning and making food. If you spend some time together with your future wife and maybe future kids, the evening is coming sooner than expected.

What other reason than sex can there be for a marriage if you do not spend time with your family? And that is not a good enough reason for a marriage, it is a bonus you get in a marriage.

I am working with computers and thus reading a bit of slashdot at work as it keeps me updated on important things, but at home I have no time for computer hobbies.

Re:Another broken marriage... (3, Funny)

rossdee (243626) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837977)

"Marriage means that you are not living in your mothers basement anymore."

We are living in her parents basement.

(And yes, I did meet my wife online,, proposed on IRC and traveled 8000 miles to marry her...

Re:Another broken marriage... (4, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837819)

This thread brought to you by the letter "bitter"

Re:Another broken marriage... (4, Insightful)

neyla (2455118) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837841)

You're married to the wrong woman then. Plain and simple.

If marriage makes it impossible to do something that's important to you, then it's not the right marriage for you.

You ignore also, offcourse, that there's geeky women in the world too - even geeky -couples-.

Re:Another broken marriage... (1)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837997)

As a counterpoint to the other AC, can I say that a better solution is to renegotiate the terms of your marriage. I had the same issue as you do, and I did leave my wife, and I now deeply regret that. With my next relationship I was more able to negotiate time up front for my geeky things. I should have renegotiated that stuff the first time round.

The whole thing also gets easier as the kids get older and (horror!) stop needing you all the time, and then stop wanting to hang out with you altogether ;)

Plenty of geeks do get married and still continue to find time to fit everything in. You are trading some of your free time, but not all of it.

Plus, you can engage your kids in geeky things too, and overrule your wife that way hehe.

Re:Another broken marriage... (3, Insightful)

matthewmacleod (1711466) | more than 2 years ago | (#38838017)

This is one of the saddest things I've ever read. Of course, everybody will have to make a couple of compromises when they enter into a long-term relationship. But that doesn't mean abandoning the things you love to do. The best part of any relationship, including marriage, is sharing the things that are important to you with your partner.

If you're going to do a theme wedding... (1)

Hadlock (143607) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837657)

Pick a good theme. Generally people pick a hobby or activity they both enjoy. Picking technology is both overly broad and can limit you. This is like a coal miner sending invitations as portraits done in coal (fixed with hairspray), or a steel mill worker sending laser cut sheet metal invite. Do you want to have a clever theme, or do you want to be reminded of your job on your wedding day?
If you're going to do a tech thing, do a parody. Send your friends and relatives invitations using IP over Avian Carriers [wikipedia.org] . Or send everyone iphone/android apps that are QR readers, but always send them to the same web address to RSVP. Basically what I'm trying to say here, is that in terms of difficulty, this is very high, as is the risk of failure. One of the many reasons people tend to stick with paper wedding invitations is that weddings are already (unnecessarily) incredibly stressful to plan and custom made invitations that you can't order through your wedding planner is master level difficulty. That said, good luck!

Oh really? (5, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837661)

A slashdotter getting married? Please.

use the pi (raspberry flavoured) (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837669)

raspberrypi.org will be shipping shortly you can embed an HD movie onto SD (I recommend blender.org to make the invite cool, just look at blender cycles).
then the end user just has to plug the device into any HDMI TV.
being a linux machine it could do numerous other things as well.
the hardware will allow it to control other devices in the same way as an aurdino, go nuts!

Try painting cards with circuits in them (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837677)

Take a look at these guys:


They make conductive gloopy black paint that you can use both to paint circuit boards and to cold solder components into them. I met a couple of the people behind the company at a trade show a couple of weeks back and bought a pot (no other connection to company). It's very clever stuff and they have a load of tutorials and examples on the site.

Re:Try painting cards with circuits in them (4, Interesting)

hoggy (10971) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837689)

[Oops! Meant to login before posting that comment. Here it is again with a 1 higher score ;-)]

Take a look at these guys:

http://www.bareconductive.com/ [bareconductive.com]

They make conductive gloopy black paint that you can use both to paint circuit boards and to cold solder components into them. I met a couple of the people behind the company at a trade show a couple of weeks back and bought a pot (no other connection to company). It's very clever stuff and they have a load of tutorials and examples on the site.

Let QR code on wedding card go to... (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837679)

... a mobile app with streaming video and stuff. Magmito dot com and others like them have options for WYSIWYG-building cross platform apps.

Re:Let QR code on wedding card go to... (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837873)

... then after wedding, make the videos go to videos taken at the wedding. Then also those who could not come can still see.

paper (4, Funny)

1s44c (552956) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837707)

How about you get a professional printer to print the invites with a nice font on high quality paper.

Then your mom might think you have reformed instead of wondering what the hell is wrong with you.

Re:paper (2)

L4t3r4lu5 (1216702) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837937)

This. Basically, what the fuck are you doing getting involved in designing ANYTHING to do with the wedding? You do realise that if it's not exactly as your fiancée wants it, you're up shit-creek for the rest of your life, right? Every. Single. Argument. Is. Lost. Because you ruined "her special day". Either that, or you can save yourself a shit load of money by having a civil ceremony, as your wife-to-be isn't part of the whole "OMG WEDDIN IZ BEZT DAY OV MAH LYEF!" crowd. In which case, invitation by email. She'll understand.

I'll just leave this comedy sketch by Ed Byrne [youtube.com] here for you.

QR roll (5, Interesting)

raketman11 (807813) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837737)

Nerd friend of mine had a QR Code on the back of the invitation. The people who knew what a QR Code was, all got rick rolled. I thought it was hillarious.

Re:QR roll (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837961)


Re:QR roll (4, Insightful)

demonlapin (527802) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837983)

This is the only sensible idea in the comments so far. Whatever you do, it has to be something that does not in any way detract from the wedding invitation as a wedding invitation. It should not be overly cutesy, or odd. It should not resemble a novelty birthday card. Even the guy I know who had his wedding in Vegas sent out traditional wedding invitations.

Regardless of the formality of the ceremony itself, or the reception afterward, a wedding is a major social event that deserves a proper invitation. If you can work in a way (like a QR code on the back) that will serve as an Easter egg without breaking that up, great. Otherwise, you're just going to leave all the non-geeks wondering what the hell is going on.

another thought (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837741)

call off the wedding

eight inch floppy disks (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837751)

twenty years ago our wedding invitations were issued as the lables on eight inch floppy disks.

Invitation App (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837759)

In this world of smartphones an invitation app might help laden with pictures of you and your wife, with a mapview showing the location etc. :)

Tape pompoms (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837777)

I made pom poms out of old 9-track tape and used them to decorate the car.

Invite App (1)

parousia_54 (2562027) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837781)

In this world of smartphones a wedding invitation app could do the trick. Have mapview for the location and stuff :)

My experience... (5, Informative)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837783)

As someone that tried to be "a bit different" with my own wedding invitations it's perhaps worth sharing some details of the experience.

All of our invitations included a business-card with a URL on one side and a unique username and password on the other. With this the guests could access our wedding website, where the they could indicate their attendance, get directions, etc. Since we knew which guests had each username we could customise what was displayed to the particular guest and the "level" of their invitation - pre-populating the RSVP page with their names, allowing them to enter their "+1"s only if their invite happened to include them, and only showing the directions to the event they had been invited.

Unfortunately, this approach confused a surprising number of people who either didn't bother to visit the URL on the card, didn't realise that they needed to detach and turn over the business card in order to find their username/password, or just assumed that since there were no RSVP or location details included with the physical invite, that it was simply a "save-the-date" and that further details would follow later. Even some of the more "tech-savvy" people had problems, and in the end we had to do far more chasing-up than we perhaps would have done had we relied on the more traditional invitation.

With this in mind, it may be best to avoid trying to be too novel with your invites, or perhaps produce a more traditional invitation for those guests that might have more difficulty with something out of the ordinary.

It is a "wedding" so (1)

Coeurderoy (717228) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837785)

Try to find an old plotter (with pens), and buy high value artisanal paper.
make a model of your handwritting and "scan" it to plot the invitations.
And add a clickable "unique" short link that people can enter easely to confirm attendance.
something like /ABC (for yes) where AB gives you about 26*26 unique identifyer and C a quick checksum validity check.
If you have more than 400 guest, make two events, you will not have the time to say hello to anybody...

    There is high tech, and the internet, it is not necessarelly the same....

Talking greeting card hack (3, Interesting)

ThreeGigs (239452) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837805)

Just hack one of those talking greeting / birthday cards. Yank the electronics and put them in your own card. I know there are cards that let you record exactly what you want on them, but they're a bit more expensive than the others. You could even personalize each voice invitation to match the person being invited.

It's different enough to be geeky and novel, but not so far-left-geeky that it'll have everyone wondering if they need to show up to your wedding in cosplay garb.

How about just making a quality wedding? (3, Interesting)

Qbertino (265505) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837807)

Cut the dorky gadgetry, would be my advice.

If I need a computer built, then electronic skills are required.
If I need a good and memorable wedding held, good event-organisation skills are required.

Both are two entirely different things - keep that in mind.

Here's a suggestion from the top of my head:

1) Print your invitation and thank-you cards with a professional printer (online printing service) and have a professional avantgarde designer to the layout and print production. Take the best quality paper + UV laquer + maybe even embossing and/or special colors. It will be a tad more expensive - two printruns of 250 items each come at roughly 200$ just for the cards, add photography and layout + print-production and you'll come out at about 600$ total - *BUT* you *will* leave a lasting impession with everybody invited. ... Ask the media-designer to make invitation and thank-you cards that people will like to keep and frame. Give him a chance to go creative as he whishes. he'll be cheaper and will put in some extra effort just for the fun of it.

2) More is less. Don't go into a huge debt over the wedding. And think if a lavishly dress and an expensive 'will never wear it again' tuxedo really is a must. Personally, I were to hold a wedding, I'd go for 'unusual, not to expesive, selected but very good (take your time finding the specials)' over 'generic but more expensive'.

For instance: I didn't cook until about 4 years ago and today I only know about 3 dishes, but I know them very well and given that I don't pinch when buying the ingredients, each of these dished taste very delicious if I put my mind to it and take my time. I couldn't afford a wedding organizer, but I'd make a point of cooking these dishes myself for my own wedding and add their part to a memorable experience. Sure, the ingredients would come 300€ or so and I'd probably have to borrow some cooking gear, but it would be a very special thing for all the guests - that I would be sure of.

3) Another example: Stainless Steel makes for very good wedding rings (geek factor aside). There are tons of quality steel rings out there nowadays, and they cost a fraction of the platinum/gold ones. Use the money you save on a top-notch honeymoon trip - you'll both have much more from it.

Oh, and congratulations and all the best wishes!

My 2 cents.

A Tip... (2)

LVSlushdat (854194) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837827)

A tip: unless your fiance is a geek also, she may take a VERY dim view on geeky stuff involving HER wedding.. I hope you understand that the bride is the "commanding officer" of a wedding.. SHE is the driving force, and in essence, all the groom needs to do is show up in appropriate dress. Of course, this is a generalization, but women often dream about "their day" namely their wedding day, and take a really dim view to ANYBODY messing with it, even when its her

Why (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837843)

I know lots of people want their wedding to be a special event and go through quite some cost/effort to put on a big show. Then again, it is supposed to be the worst day of your married life... :-)

I have a cousin who is quite gifted - did some seriously cool science/tech stuff even in high school, was invited to participate in some extra tuition/activities at a nearby university's elect. engineering dept. while still in school, etc. Wouldn't be surprised if his IQ turns out close to 200 (no joking).

I recently got a wedding invite from him. A single page of high-quality paper, simple triple fold to fit in the envelope, black ink inside and some color for their names on the outside - classic-looking cursive writing font. Simple message in english and french (his wife is French). The only thing that hinted at technology was that RSVPs could be phoned to a mobile number, or be sent to a throwaway Gmail account.

All I'm saying is: don't try too hard. If you're a real techie, people will know it anyway.

On the other hand, you could always include some of these snippets on your invitation:

  • In soviet russia...
  • ...invite you to the wedding of they're spawnd process...
  • would of (i.s.o would've), to (i.s.o. two/too) etc.
  • Profit !!!!!!10one
  • beowulf cluster

Just leave Natalie and her grits out of it.

Decoration idea (4, Interesting)

MikeRT (947531) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837847)

My wife found these lego candies that are actually stackable like real legos. She loves legos like any geek and realized that they'd be great as little favors to put on the tables. Not only did they have a little geekiness in an otherwise normal wedding, but they kept the guests' kids entertained.

RFID? (2)

scafuz (985517) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837855)

give rfid enabled cards to all invitees, and then put some arduino based stuff in every table so that when they approach a voice welcomes them "welcome $name, please take a seat, the 16-dishes meal is about to be served in minutes".... would'n it be awesome?

how about.. (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837879)

hack their computers and give them a popup invitation.. lolz

It's a wedding (4, Insightful)

beadfulthings (975812) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837881)

If you do it right, you only get one of them. If you consider it important enough to invite friends and family, send a nicely printed card with the following information: (1) Who you're marrying, when and where; (2) When and where the reception is to be held; (3) A means for people to respond; (4) Something to the effect that you hope they will be able to attend. Do this unless you are planning to be married in Klingon garb at a convention.

Why? Because the invitation is actually not about you. It's about the person you're inviting. It's intended to communicate to them that you'd be tickled to death to see them on the biggest day of your life, and then to make it as easy as possible for them to get there. You're asking them for the honor of their presence even if you don't use that wording.

Hire a promising art or design student to design it for you, send it via SnailMail to peoples' home addresses, and then give thanks that in these casual times it does not have to be engraved from a copper plate and addressed by hand.

Very high failure risk (4, Informative)

Jack Malmostoso (899729) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837893)

My cousin and her wife both work in tourism, so they fashioned their invites as plane tickets.
This confused a large number of people. My mom for example threw the invitation straight in the bin, thinking it was some mass mailing.

Be careful.

Have to echo the sentiment (2)

ledow (319597) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837897)

How about having a day off from your geekiness in order to concentrate on your future wife?

All the fancy stuff will be ignored by anyone over X years old (and lead to things like "I haven't had an invite, just this thing in an envelope", people getting lost, etc.). All the geeks will play with it for precisely two and a half seconds and then do what they would have done anyway (i.e. Facebook or SMS their RSVP or whatever).

It's like CV's - you *can* send them to me on a micro-SD card embedded into a credit-card sized business card if you really want to. I'll put them on my "erase and reuse" pile. Or you could have just sent me a piece of paper with all the necessary details on (and maybe make a website with all the details on too but in my experience people either bring the paper with them or forget the website and don't have the paper on them to find out and end up phoning you anyway).

Wanna be a geek? Stick a lego toy on each table, or have a friend start burning CD's / DVD's of the ceremony as soon as possible and give them out to people as they leave as a memento, or make sure ALL your wedding photos are uploaded the next day (including the "professional" ones) so others can see it.

Think what your 86-year-old granny's cousin will do with the invite. If it's anything other than read it and reply, you're doing it wrong. Save the fancy tech for your friends parties where you don't expect dozens of random people you don't know to turn up.

Re:Have to echo the sentiment (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837967)


The wedding is not about you, no matter what anyone says. It's about your wife. Leave the tech stuff alone, do the invitations, the napkins, everything, the way she wants them done. Give her that one day as close to perfection as you reasonably can.

By Hand (2)

vikingpower (768921) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837915)

Old-fashioned. Use *no tech*. Write all the invites by hand, put them into hand-written and tongue-licked envelopes, bring them to the post office. You'll be astounded at the response.

Optionally, throw in a code-cracking contest ( also hand-written ) that is not TOO hard to crack.

Set up a user help desk for the in-laws (1)

PolygamousRanchKid (1290638) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837923)

As soon as the word spreads around that a computer geek has married into the family, you will start getting calls from all sorts of distant relatives of your wife:

"I didn't change anything, but my computer stopped working . . . "

You might as well meet them all now, face to face, before you have to deal with them on the phone.

WOW! (3, Insightful)

Ecuador (740021) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837927)

First of all, dude, forget about your mom for a second. If the bride-to-be figures out your wedding choices are to please your mom, there will be problems!
Secondly, invitations that you open and they play music were cool 25 years ago. QR codes would be a lot of fun for your 1 buddy that would "get it" (of course the QR code would have to actually be something). And, well, I will just go ahead and stop you with the lcd's.
The only cool invitation hardware wise that I have seen is the embedded manual paper record player.
If you are good with photoshop perhaps you want to design your wedding invitation (but print it professionally of course) and really make it special. You can also make a website, and a reservation system. For example, I had included a personal code with each invitation, that when entered in the wedding website it logged on the individual and allowed him/her to just select the number of people and accept. No, you cannot have just a QR code there, people won't be able to use it.
Finally, be careful of the mom thing.

Veto (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837935)

Don't worry about it, your wife will (thankfully) veto this (stupid) idea.

Rickroll them ! (1)

advid.net (595837) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837947)

Put many signs to redirect those who are looking for toilets into a small cabinet where they would be Rickrolled, with at least a Rick poster and a player starting to play the pop song as soon as they open the door.

Also set up a camera and display the results on your large HD screen once you have a bunch of funny reactions.

something like ... (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837957)

http://www.frank-zhao.com/cache/usbbusinesscard_details.php ?

confuse them (1, Insightful)

dltaylor (7510) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837985)

Do something simple and elegant.

Invitations: high quality stock, embossed printing. Perhaps small decorations that reflect your fiancés taste with your input on color (if she likes birds, you can pick from pastel blue, yellow, cream, ..., maybe even black if she doesn't mind). Your mother will really think "that's cool".

If you HAVE TO show that it's your wedding, too (it's not, BTW, except technically), do something in the gift baskets, like custom printed USB sticks, with "Mr. and Mrs. (unless she's doing something sane with her last name) " and load them with photographs from the wedding and/or reception.

Dude! WTF??? (2)

million_monkeys (2480792) | more than 2 years ago | (#38837987)

I'm assuming you're a guy marrying a girl... so what does your fiance want to do for invites?
Yeah, do that.

You can spend a lot of time coming up with the most clever idea out there, but if your bride-to-be doesn't like it, you're fucked (and not in the good way). By all means suggest something geeky, but if she balks, back down and accept that you're not the star of this particular show.

Don't plan for the wedding (0)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837989)

You've pretty much guaranteed it won't happen...

let your wife-to-be decide (0, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | more than 2 years ago | (#38837993)

Hey Moron,

Seek advice from your wife-to-be! It's really her day and if you screw it up, you'll have to live with it for the rest of your life, or until her lawyers take half of everything you own.

A bit confused (3, Funny)

macshome (818789) | more than 2 years ago | (#38838011)

So do you need to make a physical invitation for a Second Life wedding?

I kid. I kid...
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