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The Perils of Developers Hooking Up

timothy posted about 2 years ago | from the like-with-like-among-their-own-kind dept.

Programming 278

jammag writes "Who better for a developer to love than another developer? Yet as a veteran coder describes, it's not always a good idea for a programmer to fall for another programmer. He describes his experience observing — and getting partially pulled into — a romance within a development team. Part of the problem, perhaps, is that some developers spend so much time buried in code that, well, they quickly find themselves out of their league. Then again, why not love among the code?"

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278 comments

Old wisdom (4, Funny)

SquarePixel (1851068) | about 2 years ago | (#41366111)

This is nothing more than the old wisdom of not dating anyone who is exactly like you. You need someone that shares little same interestst, but who can fullfil things you dont like or do. Yes, you can have one night stands between developers, but then again, majority of female programmers are ugly and insecure as hell, so you might want to get a normal person anyway.

Re:Old wisdom (5, Interesting)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366193)

*COUGH* BS

I am a mechanical engineer, wife is electrical. We have worked together have similar interests (though there are differences) and yet we have been together for 20 years!!!! In fact my wife is my mate for life. I don't know what what I would do without her. I also think your comment that a majority of female programmers are ugly and insecure is completely missing the mark. Get out of your hole caveman! Maybe you are the problem, not the women that you are critiquing.

Re:Old wisdom (2, Insightful)

CoolToe (2732573) | about 2 years ago | (#41366243)

It's true, female programmers tend to be ugly and insecure. We had one in our class and she was shy as hell.

But why exactly would you want someone exactly like you to be your partner? It works much better when each other complete each other.

Re:Old wisdom (5, Interesting)

neminem (561346) | about 2 years ago | (#41366333)

Because that way you understand each other. Because that way your eccentricities don't bother her so much, and vice versa. Because that way you can generally simultaneously do things that you enjoy doing and also spend time with the person you enjoy spending time with, rather than picking one or the other exclusively.

I've never met anyone exactly like myself, though if I were single and did meet such a person, I would be immediately interested, but I wouldn't even consider a relationship with someone I didn't share a majority of interests and a similar worldview with. I've seen where that leads (it leads to a relationship like my parents' :p).

Re:Old wisdom (5, Insightful)

hawguy (1600213) | about 2 years ago | (#41366505)

It's true, female programmers tend to be ugly and insecure. We had one in our class and she was shy as hell.

That's funny, one of our dev teams is over half female and none of them are ugly or insecure. And what does shy have to do with it? One of our star developers is shy and reserved outside of his team, but he still does great work. It may take longer to get to know a shy person, but it's generally worth the extra work. (I was painfully shy in high school and early college, but now I'm much more outgoing and have no problem giving presentations even to large (100+) groups)

Re:Old wisdom (4, Insightful)

amicusNYCL (1538833) | about 2 years ago | (#41366783)

We had one in our class and she was shy as hell.

Weird, there was a person in your class who was singled out as being different from everyone else, and she was shy? Not sure I believe that...

Re:Old wisdom (2)

RearNakedChoke (1102093) | about 2 years ago | (#41366823)

It's true, female programmers tend to be ugly and insecure. We had one in our class and she was shy as hell. But why exactly would you want someone exactly like you to be your partner? It works much better when each other complete each other.

Female coders are average looking, but so are their male counterparts. So apples to apples.

Frankly, a male coder most likely will only attract another female coder. What extroverted, hot blonde is going to find some nerd attractive? And no, don't give me examples of the few RICH nerds with hot chicks.

Re:Old wisdom (4, Interesting)

Mordok-DestroyerOfWo (1000167) | about 2 years ago | (#41366411)

Nail on the head. My fiance is a civil engineer, I'm an application developer. Granted she doesn't get into coding in the same way that I do, but our love of classic video games, good sci-fi, and other nerdy pursuits makes us a pretty awesome couple. I've seen some messy workplace relationships in all fields, if anything that is what to avoid (if you're in a small workplace or work together in a small group). You should always be at the same intellectual level as your partner.

Re:Old wisdom (4, Funny)

K. S. Kyosuke (729550) | about 2 years ago | (#41366523)

I am a mechanical engineer, wife is electrical.

So, she brought the spark with her and you gave her steaming hot sex in exchange?

Re:Old wisdom (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366589)

Yes!

I'm in IT, the wife is a CNA. After a day of work, she really doesn't understand what I had to do, nor do I understand some of the stuff she had to do and neither of understand what parts of what we did drive us crazy, made us frustrated, feel like we saved the day with something we did, etc.

Look at this way. She's an art major (even though she ended up in the med field). I was having her try to teach me what art deco is.. and after her trying to explain and show examples and saying it's not like "this is black and white" type deal or whatever, I was still at a loss looking at stuff on the computer going "okay, so this is art deco? Well hell, this has to be!" and she just wanted to smack me.

Sometimes being in the same field or fields close enough in relation you can understand when the other talks about work or other interests isn't a bad thing at all

Additional necdotal counterpoints to GP (2)

moogla (118134) | about 2 years ago | (#41366735)

I also know of two pairs of now-married employees in my corporation are both very similar.
One such couple are both very narrowly focused in aligned skills and interests, geospatial app development.
Another such couple are both high-level engineers that do program management.

I think it just depends on the people. If you put your career first, and then the relationship happens later, then I think it works great! This particular story is one of people getting involved with someone they just met on a particular team, and this particular individual sounds like a leech (and I know of a few in our corporation too, we tell people to stay away from them).

Re:Old wisdom (5, Funny)

multipartmixed (163409) | about 2 years ago | (#41366747)

> I am a mechanical engineer, wife is electrical.

Wow, you are SO in the wrong field. I am a software engineer; my wife is biological.

Re:Old wisdom (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366837)

You aren't an engineer

Re:Old wisdom (2)

mark-t (151149) | about 2 years ago | (#41366285)

...majority of female programmers are ugly

Citation, please.

Re:Old wisdom (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366551)

PBV.

(As my old 10th grade calc teacher would say, "PBV" is not acceptable - "proved by vision").

Re:Old wisdom (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366659)

Also, provide evidence that discriminating gender (or genus/species) is a priority. Most developers I know are willing to try (and frequently make use of) experimental functions. Animal, mineral, or vegetable... I'm convinced that developers are trysexuals.

Re:Old wisdom (2, Informative)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366623)

Most of the female programmers I know are actually cute. Granted, they are not absolute gorgeous but they are definitely not ugly.

Re:Old wisdom (2)

Marxist Hacker 42 (638312) | about 2 years ago | (#41366789)

A really old joke:
A preacher, a politician, and a programmer walk into a bar.

The preacher starts saying "I hope my congregation and my wife don't find out about my mistress on the side"

The politician says "I hope my constituents don't find out about my love for gay bars".

The programmer says "I introduced my mistress to my wife and gave them my credit card to go shopping with so I could GET SOME WORK DONE!"

The only time in my marriage I was tempted to stray was early on with a programmer 5 years younger than myself, when we were both still in our 20s. She was sexy as all get out, despite getting insults at cons about her boob size (B-cup, where my wife's a DD). Why didn't we do it? Because it took 14 hour days in that job just to keep the *critical* software running.

Re:Old wisdom (1)

Marxist Hacker 42 (638312) | about 2 years ago | (#41366811)

Oh, and on the opposites attract thing, I like to say that put together my wife and I have one good brain between us. And she's into soap operas, not sci-fi.

You've changed... (4, Funny)

Translation Error (1176675) | about 2 years ago | (#41366121)

Why don't you ever comment anymore?

Re:You've changed... (4, Funny)

TheGratefulNet (143330) | about 2 years ago | (#41366155)

(mumble) perl necklace (/mumble)

Re:You've changed... (2)

CoolToe (2732573) | about 2 years ago | (#41366169)

Oh you dirty guy, call my constructor function!

Re:You've changed... (5, Funny)

NoNonAlphaCharsHere (2201864) | about 2 years ago | (#41366199)

Oooh, dereference my pointer.

Re:You've changed... (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366327)

I tried, but ran into NullPointerException.

Re:You've changed... (4, Funny)

X0563511 (793323) | about 2 years ago | (#41366409)

Maybe you just need to spend a bit more time initializing your pointer.

Re:You've changed... (5, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366345)

I'm gonna violate array bounds like nobody's business.

You won't even have time to garbage collect before I'm dumping core.

Re:You've changed... (3, Funny)

jmerlin (1010641) | about 2 years ago | (#41366563)

Where's the MilkFactory?

RIght there, I'm pointing to it.

I don't se..
Segmentation Fault

Re:You've changed... (4, Funny)

wcrowe (94389) | about 2 years ago | (#41366371)

unzip, strip, touch, finger, grep, mount, fsck, more, yes,fsck,fsck,fsck,umount, sleep

Re:You've changed... (5, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366489)

If you are trying to make a joke, atleast do it properly. Use a semicolon instead of the comma, and it makes sense in both english and bash.

Re:You've changed... (1)

jmerlin (1010641) | about 2 years ago | (#41366595)

You forgot the curl between the umount and sleep.

Re:You've changed... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366839)

You forgot the curl between the umount and sleep.

This is probably from a guy's perspective, but curl is optional, right?

Re:You've changed... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366607)

I call shenanigans. I don't remember that Proverbs verse.

Re:You've changed... (4, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366631)

if you just unmount, sleep without at least some touch, you probably getting an access denied when you try to logon the next time...

Re:You've changed... (3, Funny)

Translation Error (1176675) | about 2 years ago | (#41366665)

You ass! You promised me you were in safe mode!

I bow down before thee... (1)

macbeth66 (204889) | about 2 years ago | (#41366757)

Although, I have to say, my wife does not like to be grepped. She feels that I'd just be looking for the desired parts...

Well, duh!

And use a semi-colon for Dog's sake!

Re:You've changed... (4, Funny)

ifiwereasculptor (1870574) | about 2 years ago | (#41366781)

unzip, strip, touch, finger, grep, mount, fsck, more, yes,fsck,fsck,fsck,umount, sleep

And remember, folks: using sudo is NOT OK!

Re:You've changed... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366537)

I would comment more, but I don't understand your methods anymore.

The perils of programmers marrying (5, Funny)

NoNonAlphaCharsHere (2201864) | about 2 years ago | (#41366133)

I have to assume gestation takes about 17 months. And the resulting baby in no way resembles what everyone was expecting.

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (5, Funny)

SJHillman (1966756) | about 2 years ago | (#41366187)

Babies have scope creep written all over them.

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366483)

The worst part is garbage-in, garbage-out. Except frequently, you don't know the garbage that went in (A Lego? Playdough? Why are their lips purple?) so you find yourself attempting to debug their garbage out. That's one of the worst jobs ever...

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (5, Funny)

Intrepid imaginaut (1970940) | about 2 years ago | (#41366205)

But if you have nine people involved, it only takes one month! Or so my manager told me once.

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366561)

I assume he meant 9 people (of a specific gender) plus the manager. Or else I dont see how that is possible.

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (4, Funny)

Bogtha (906264) | about 2 years ago | (#41366253)

Just wait until you hear about how long you've got to support it. And you go to jail if you EOL it!

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (4, Funny)

Translation Error (1176675) | about 2 years ago | (#41366353)

If you end up having twins (or triplets, etc.), do you tell everyone that your pregnancy forked?

Re:The perils of programmers marrying (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366521)

Refactoring...throwing the baby out with the bathwater!

Hooking up? (-1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366143)

Does touching each others dongs and playing penis-butt count as hooking up?

Re:Hooking up? (1)

X0563511 (793323) | about 2 years ago | (#41366425)

Yes. Next stupid question?

Re:Hooking up? (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366719)

Bannana!!

Re:Hooking up? (0)

ifiwereasculptor (1870574) | about 2 years ago | (#41366819)

Ok:
Does touching each others dongs and playing butt-butt count as hooking up?

How did that piece of fiction make it to slashdot? (1, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366203)

seriously, this can't be real.

My wife doesn't understand me (1)

bugs2squash (1132591) | about 2 years ago | (#41366207)

said perl, that's why I brainfuck around.

Even a dog knows... (5, Insightful)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366215)

...not to shit where they eat.

Hooking up with cow-orkers often ends badly -- the line of work has nothing to do with it.

Re:Even a dog knows... (1)

TWX (665546) | about 2 years ago | (#41366265)

...not to shit where they eat.

You've obviously never met the dog that we had when I was a kid...

To be polite about it, the dog was kind of confused as to what was food and what was not food...

Re:Even a dog knows... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366603)

| Hooking up with cow-orkers

Someone said they were ugly, but not cows.

Re:Even a dog knows... (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366751)

Maybe he is a redneck programmer. You know code a while, look amorously at cows, get the juices flowing. And then bam 9months later there is a brand new cow.

Ugh (4, Informative)

Bogtha (906264) | about 2 years ago | (#41366219)

What's this rubbish doing on Slashdot? It's a badly written co-worker romance short story.

Re:Ugh (4, Funny)

93 Escort Wagon (326346) | about 2 years ago | (#41366317)

It's a badly written work of fiction. I'm guessing it got posted on Datamation because even Harlequin has standards.

Re:Ugh (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366319)

Agreed. Total fiction and uninsightful.

Re:Ugh (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366513)

Submitter's URL is 'datamation.com'...

Simple Rule (3, Insightful)

R3d M3rcury (871886) | about 2 years ago | (#41366221)

Don't fuck where you eat.

Don't crap where you eat... (4, Insightful)

TWX (665546) | about 2 years ago | (#41366223)

It's generally not a good idea to have an office romance with someone that you spend most of your workday working closely with, regardless of the profession, but especially in working groups that are very stable and unchanging.

You see this person about eight hours a day, and might even work in the same group-cubicle. If your relationship gets serious then you're likely to see them many hours a day beyond the workday too. For probably most of us, best case and the relationship goes well, one gets a little tired of the significant other after awhile, but literally can't escape because of the enforced time at work together. Worst case, the relationship ends, badly, and you're stuck with them in the same confined space but now can't stand each other.

Eight or so years ago I dated a gal for a few months that works at one of the sites I support and it's still a little awkward running into her when I go there. I can't imagine the awkwardness if we worked at the same site, let alone the same department. It would probably also complicate my subsequent marriage, as I doubt my wife would be very happy with me working closely with an old flame.

If working groups are varied and dynamic and if the organization is large enough that one doesn't constantly see the other, then it might work okay to date a coworker, but even then it has its perils, not even getting into career choices.

Re:Don't crap where you eat... (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366663)

Or, one is promoted and another has to admit the romance occurred even though they're both married. This causes many issues up to and including one party losing out on the promotion because they didn't disclose it first and the other feeling alienated by their superiors and having fear of future jobs loss, etc and then having to change jobs to avoid any future issues at that organization.

Seriously, take it from someone who knows: keep your hands to yourself at work.

Personalities (1)

CanHasDIY (1672858) | about 2 years ago | (#41366227)

Job focus, education, political leanings - while they may help form who you are, they are not criterion upon which lasting relationships are founded.

IMO, It boils down to A) the personalities involved, and B) how well one person deals with the other person's annoying little quirks.

As for B, well... patience goes a long way. Doesn't hurt if you really love the other person, too - makes those little annoyances far easier to deal with.

"why not love among the code?" (4, Funny)

Virtucon (127420) | about 2 years ago | (#41366231)

Because you'll get the keyboards all sticky!

Dating a co-worker can be bad for your health (3, Insightful)

proca (2678743) | about 2 years ago | (#41366247)

Inter-office romance shouldn't be banned, but you better be damn sure before jumping into a relationship with a co-worker. I don't see how the job description changes that fact. Life isn't fair, and if the relationship ends badly (and it surfaces at work), the woman is more likely to be the subject of gossip and office drama among colleagues.

Re:Dating a co-worker can be bad for your health (5, Insightful)

hawguy (1600213) | about 2 years ago | (#41366437)

Inter-office romance shouldn't be banned, but you better be damn sure before jumping into a relationship with a co-worker. I don't see how the job description changes that fact. Life isn't fair, and if the relationship ends badly (and it surfaces at work), the woman is more likely to be the subject of gossip and office drama among colleagues.

As a manager I wish office relationships were banned. No matter what the intentions are when starting a relationship, the truth is that many relationships die, and sometimes die a horrible, prolonged death. And when it involves two people that have to work together, the whole team suffers.

Compartmentalize. But it ain't easy. (1)

wcrowe (94389) | about 2 years ago | (#41366263)

Speaking from experience, it can be fine if you're not working together on the same project. Otherwise, it takes a lot of effort to compartmentalize. You cannot allow personal stuff to leak into work stuff. Imagine the following conversation:

Person A: "That structure doesn't look right. You should do something like this." (demonstrates)
Person B: "There's nothing wrong with it."
Person A: "It's inefficient."
Person B: (Irritated) "Oh yeah? Well, I don't like the way you slurp your coffee!"

At this point things begin to spiral out of control...

s/developers/people (2)

edsousa (1201831) | about 2 years ago | (#41366283)

Clearly the guy only knows programmers... the story he tells has nothing to do with the job. And the girl is a bitch.

Absolutely don't date a developer (for men) (1)

Shompol (1690084) | about 2 years ago | (#41366305)

The absolute majority of developers are male, which stacks the "market" against us. There is usually little to no selection, while the sole lady in the group gets all the attention of the 120+ male programmers. I suspect that this is the root cause of the "mom's basement" paradigm. I lost count how many times I wished to be an Accountant or something.

So, to those single devs on this thread: get off your little couches and your home gaming rigs, and find someone outside the office. I recommend friends of friends, or some sort of community. Can even go back to school and get a non-technical degree (like Accounting!).

Re:Absolutely don't date a developer (for men) (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366367)

I was just hoping that I'd get assigned to a marketing project. But they were only ever interested in the finance guys......apparently the marketing girls liked money instead of technology. :)

Re:Absolutely don't date a developer (for men) (2)

Spy Handler (822350) | about 2 years ago | (#41366487)

get off your little couches and your home gaming rigs, and find someone outside the office.

Church is recommended for the ~1% of Slashdotters who actually have a religion. Lots of normal females to meet there.

For the 99% who are atheists, I recommend music. If you played a musical instrument in middle/high school, go to a local community college and enroll in a performing class. If you're actually (still) proficient, you can join some kind of a community orchestra.

Re:Absolutely don't date a developer (for men) (1)

gstoddart (321705) | about 2 years ago | (#41366649)

If you played a musical instrument in middle/high school, go to a local community college and enroll in a performing class. If you're actually (still) proficient, you can join some kind of a community orchestra.

One time ... at band camp ...

But, slightly more seriously ... that's it? Church or music? I'm betting you've covered 2% of everyone here and that "not religious and not musical" covers a huge swath of people.

Re:Absolutely don't date a developer (for men) (1)

CanHasDIY (1672858) | about 2 years ago | (#41366797)

For the 99% who are atheists, I recommend music. If you played a musical instrument in middle/high school, go to a local community college and enroll in a performing class. If you're actually (still) proficient, you can join some kind of a community orchestra.

I second this; having been a member of several small, local theater groups in my youth, I can say with assurance that participating in the performing arts is a great way to get some tail.

Old Saying... (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366309)

Don't get your Honey, where you get your Money!

This falls into the category of (1)

kilodelta (843627) | about 2 years ago | (#41366313)

Never shit where you eat. It's served the animal kingdom well enough for eons and by god, it should be the same in any I.T. shop.

Re:This falls into the category of (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366539)

Never shit where you eat. It's served the animal kingdom well enough for eons and by god, it should be the same in any I.T. shop.

Actually I am pretty sure it falls under "rejected letters to penthouse" with a slightly, um, 'redacted' ending. The story was the shortest, most predictable bit of fiction I have seen since Kim Kardashian's wedding. There is nothing there even remotely unique to IT or technology, much less programming.

Re:This falls into the category of (1)

gstoddart (321705) | about 2 years ago | (#41366733)

Never shit where you eat. It's served the animal kingdom well enough for eons and by god, it should be the same in any I.T. shop.

How do you explain cows then?

I know many people who have spent time around cows which will tell me a cow will shit in its water bucket, on its food, on itself, and pretty much anywhere else it can manage.

It's a nice guide, but I'm not convinced the animal kingdom is that aware of it. But maybe it's just cows. :-P

On a serious note.. (2, Informative)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366335)

Studies have shown that the risk of kids having Autistic spectrum disorders is drastically increased when both parents are borderline Aspergers or whatever (this shouldn't really come as a surprise). So it may be a very good idea for programmers to aim as high as they can when finding a spouse and try to get someone who at least has a normal amount of extroversion. If that's not possible and you do end up with someone of a similar personality, candidly assess your own mental state and think seriously about the risk/reward of having your own kids.

Re:On a serious note.. (1)

neminem (561346) | about 2 years ago | (#41366507)

I have seen those studies, and they are interesting.

That said, as someone with supposedly high-functioning Aspergers, I'm generally attracted to other people who are also similar; furthermore, I have a feeling if I was ever a dad, I'd be a better dad to a kid whose brain I understood better, too. So I'm not seeing that as completely a bad thing. :p

(Obviously, having a kid with crazy Autism would suck horribly for both me and the kid, but I honestly don't really think that kind of crazy Autism is even -related- to the generally-socially-awkward-and-kinda-eccentric high-functioning Aspergers that is common among programmers and other geekish professions, and I haven't really seen any evidence stating otherwise. People just call them a spectrum cause... they're a spectrum along social awkwardness, I guess? I'm not even entirely convinced the diagnosis of "Aspergers" is a single thing, as opposed to just a broad range of "abnormalities" given one label for convenience of discussion.)

Programmers should NEVER directly interact (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366337)

There should always be some sort of adapter class between them.

Please refer to the Ménage pattern for more info.

Drama queens make terrible co-workers (1)

sl4shd0rk (755837) | about 2 years ago | (#41366351)

No matter what the profession, drama in the workplace, at the level described in TFA, is best reserved for Prime Time TV. It's really annoying to those of us who are actually working.

Don't dip your pen in the company ink (1)

juancnuno (946732) | about 2 years ago | (#41366385)

Jesus. The problem isn't falling for another developer. The problem is falling for and going out with a developer on your own team which just isn't a good idea.

Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

Re:Don't dip your pen in the company ink (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366705)

Yeah, pretending "hooking up with another developer" == "a romance within a development team" should make this the stupidest post ever. (Well, it would, but this is /., so there's lots more where that came from...)

nothing to do with 'developers' (5, Insightful)

hawguy (1600213) | about 2 years ago | (#41366393)

Office romances (especially within the same team) are always bad news. Though the story comes off as a poorly written romance novel - a sort of Shades of Grey fantasy novel for geeks.

That said, I've dated girls in my field and girls outside of my field, and I've found that I get along better with those outside my field. We don't need work to be our 'common ground', and we don't find ourselves telling each other how to do each other's job. When she tells me about her workday, I don't feel so compelled to tell her how to solve her problem since I have no expertise in her field. And vice-versa. On the flip side, if I'm looking for advice about some specific problem I'm facing, I can't go to her, but that's what friends are for.

did I mistype the URL? (2)

udachny (2454394) | about 2 years ago | (#41366401)

I thought I typed /. but it looks like I am on playboy letters to the editor section, and it's not very good.

I could tell you stories about office situations like that but that's the thing, I don't think people who have stories to tell actually want to tell them to anybody, the world is too small.

Imagine the bedroom banter.... (1)

mcwop (31034) | about 2 years ago | (#41366427)

while (me=horny)
{
service me;
}

Re:Imagine the bedroom banter.... (1)

NewWorldDan (899800) | about 2 years ago | (#41366677)

Careful there cowboy. Sloppy syntax can send you into an infinite loop.

Re:Imagine the bedroom banter.... (1)

mcwop (31034) | about 2 years ago | (#41366721)

That is the funny part, when they start correcting each other. Spewing unintelligible error codes.

Don't get your meat where you get your bread. (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366435)

n/t

Title unrelated to subject (4, Interesting)

neminem (561346) | about 2 years ago | (#41366439)

Title made me curious why someone would be claiming developers shouldn't hook up (possibly a new study about the prevalence of high-level autism in the Silicon Valley?) Being a developer who is dating another developer and who might eventually want kids, that would have been potentially relevant.

But no, this was just another random story of a hot programmer flirting with teammates, which, as a jillion people have aready said, is generally a bad idea whether you're a programmer, or have any other career that involves working in a group. I don't think it'd be any different or less awkward for someone on my team as a developer to hook up with a tester or a graphic designer or a documentation writer on the same team as for them to hook up with another developer.

Inversely, a while ago I learned one of the testers on our team had requested to move to a different team; a few months later I learned it was because she'd started dating a developer on that team. They've been happily married a couple years now, and both still work here. Probably smart of them to be in different teams, though (though both still on the development floor, which I see nothing wrong with at all.)

the PERLs of Developers Hooking-Up (2, Funny)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366443)

It all starts-out with that flirtatious morning JAVA, and soon, it's on to PERL necklaces, and RUBY on rings.

Son of Software (3, Funny)

carrier lost (222597) | about 2 years ago | (#41366531)

My mother was a web-app, my father was mobile. I am the result of a one-time backend synchronization.

Re:Son of Software (1)

asylumx (881307) | about 2 years ago | (#41366775)

I don't think a backend sync can result in a child process...

Horrible idea (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366615)

Never date anybody you work with unless you have a routine, easily replaceable job like working in a bar, restaurant, or retail outlet.

It's a horrible idea to have any type of romance at a serious, white collar job. You're just asking for a sexual harassment dismissal or worse. People are very uptight and paranoid at these jobs. Don't jeopardize your job or anybody else's.

Find your partner outside your job. That means you'll have to work less hours and make less money. It's a fair trade off for a better sex life.

News for nerds... (1)

jmerlin (1010641) | about 2 years ago | (#41366627)

that doesn't really matter.

Example (1)

Sparticus789 (2625955) | about 2 years ago | (#41366697)

if foo
then blah
else foo 2
#crashes like you do after work -John
while blah
#double-check it was actually done, you should try it sometime -Jane

What a load of crap (1)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366703)

That article reads like some kind of Dear Penthouse letter for geeks or something. Even if it's real, the coding had *nothing* to do with that situation...

That story (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366723)

is not very believable, more like someones dream.

nope (0)

Anonymous Coward | about 2 years ago | (#41366763)

Just because a duplicitous girl caused trouble in your office doesn't at all mean developers hooking up is perilous.

If I wanted that sort of unfounded extrapolation I would follow politics instead of "news for nerds".

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