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Killing Your Sexual Desires for Academic and Intellectual Pursuits?

Anonymous Coward writes | about a year ago


An anonymous reader writes "In the past few months, I have been applying to a multitude of graduate schools. Recently, I was accepted into a Ph.D. in computer science program at a fairly prestigious and demanding institution. Like most Slashdot readers, I have always been an exceptional student throughout high school and my undergraduate studies. However, as a heterosexual male individual, there has always been a persistent desire to associate myself with females in an effort to find love, have sex, and to be in a relationship. I have learned the hard way that this is often a colossal distraction from one's schooling and I would like to train myself to become more apathetic to such desires in preparation for the difficult but intellectually awarding years of graduate school that lay ahead. So, fellow Slashdot users, I ask you a rather odd but serious question on none other than Valentine's Day: How do you kill your sexual desires to enable you to focus more on academic and intellectual goals?"


Single Happiness (1)

AstroPhilosopher (2500630) | about a year ago | (#42896245)

Personally, I keep a track of my finances noting the money saved while single compared to dating or in a relationship. Also, since I entered IT in a later stage of life, I tend to remind myself of how I could have been at this (satisfying) stage earlier if not for wasting years in relationships that usually turn sour. Finally, considering the impact of entertainment and media on American women today, I decided to no longer date them; it has been my experience that women from other countries tend to be more devoted to relationships minus the unnecessary BS many American women like to inject into theirs. I like my money and I like my peace of mind. Being single ensures I keep both. However, this is simply my observation and by no means is meant to stereotype any women.

Be a RockStar and stop avoiding yourself! (1)

viralsuicide (2731619) | about a year ago | (#42901573)

Killing sexual desires is not a healthy thing. You will be desensitized from a possible love attraction that may be valuable in your future. If a woman distracts you from your studies she is not the woman for you, dump her. That's it and easy. Profesional woman usually consider your employment and understand not to interfere. It seems like you like many go for the crazy, crash and burn type and that's not good. Even if you like crazy girls, I bet there are crazy girls in your line of profession that will respect you. We live in a world full of people and you are saying you cannot find anyone? The problem is not the woman, it's you. There is a difference from sex partner and a love partner, figure it out. If your not willing to spend money on anyone then what is the money for. Gold coins and silver dollars will never love you or have sex. You would be surprised the number of woman that would love to have sex without attachements and the same for love. Some of them will actually pay for the date. It's just a secret kept guarded. United States is also one of the most sexual uptight countries in the world because we blaze it on tv and condone it on the streets. Give yourself a break, discover the bachelor in you that can infiltrate all this and don't spend your money on a waterfall like she's the only one. Don't give up either after rejection after rejection until you find your type of woman. If your new to this see it as a break through because rejection is a part of life your gonna have to live up too. You won't get it over night but give yourself a break to learn. Fit these plans in your budget, what can go wrong? Just say no if you don't want to spend anymore. Oh yeah and one more thing never lie to have sex or find love just be yourself. This works with anything you want to do.

Re:Be a RockStar and stop avoiding yourself! (1)

Genda (560240) | about a year ago | (#42906549)

Depends if he's the one that goes crazy in relationship. Some guys just can't get involved without GETTING INVOLVED... killing desire is better that slow burning when you've committed yourself to accomplishing something in a given time frame. That said, blocking testosterone is a pretty heavy handed solution. Doable, but moderately expensive and takes serious discipline to ensure no bad surprises.

Re:Be a RockStar and stop avoiding yourself! (1)

viralsuicide (2731619) | about a year ago | (#42938185)

Testosterone is expensive and a serious discipline? Sounds like getting married to a wife that doesn't give sex but wants your wallet and in order to sustain your relationship you must be very disciplined. How does inhibiting natural responses makes you better at your work when the ultimate result of your work is to be interfaced with people? They should get involved! It is a part of life you don't want to miss out on! Face your fear even if you spaz out, you can recall yourself later and see how brave you have become and it gets better when you dare yourself a little more further the next time. If not what would experience amount to? Sitting in front of a computer with endless hours? If blocking testosterone is expensive and you don't want the emotional toll a partner would bring then look for sex. Dare, dare, dare. It's awesome, nerve racking and sometimes humiliation may take place but that is the beauty of it!

Options (1)

zap1992 (2795907) | about a year ago | (#42905195)

You could always have yourself castrated. But why do that when you could use your sexual energy to your advantage by conditioning yourself into having some kind of weird programming fetish.

Two distinct conversations... (1)

Genda (560240) | about a year ago | (#42906525)

If your distraction is from your mate, the as others have posted, you need to change up your mating style, might I suggest a geek gurl. Someone with the same interested technologically as you, who you can actually play with technologically as well as in a mammalian fashion. That way, you can have a study partner, a person who will be able to push you in developing your puter chops as well as any other chopping you see fit.

If on the other hand, it is you that becomes distracted in the presence of anyone possessing X^2 chromosomes, then chemical castration might just be the thing for you. I would suggest Spiranalactone and Finasteride in appropriate doses to drop your Testosterone levels to near zero. This will have impacts. You will want to supplement chemistry to enhance metabolism, because testosterone gives men an extra metabolic pathway (making it way easier to gain weight and have abundant physical energy, ask any woman.) Exercise. You will lose muscle mass. Resistance exercise is recommended. However, work it well and you could find yourself healthier and happier. (up sides are reducing risks of testicular and prostate cancer, reduced sperm count until you stop taking meds... i.e. you're shooting blanks, no surprise paternity.) Depends on your masculine self image, alpha males will hate it. Stay away from Soy, Clover, Red Cohash, and any plants with abundant phytoestrogens. Without sufficient testosterone to blunt their impact large intake of estrogen rich foods could cause marked feminization. Especially stay away from hormone treated meat (poultry of beef.)

You may want to combine consumption with Nootropics to enhance mental performance and intellectual capabilities. Be careful. Cutting back suddenly on Testosterone can cause mood swings, mild depression and tiredness. Go slow. If you can't get the meds mentioned above, a suitable alternative is cimetidine a heart burn medication you can buy over the counter at any Pharmacy (without a prescription.) However to cause significant testosterone blockage you need to take LARGE doses and it may have impacts on you GI tract by changing the pH of your stomach during digestion.

So in short, you won't be bothered by sex, even with yourself, drive will go away. You will also probably become impotent and lose the ability to have or sustain erections. You will however, be able to hump exams like a mad man. Feel free to ask questions, I have a lot of data here.

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