Study Shows Standing Up To Bullies Is Good For You
Compare with Olweus Bullying Prevention Program, in a district with a zero-tolerance policy for violence, which has had success telling kids and their parents that returning physical violence is wrong.
Have you tried Natural Selection? The theme is Marines vs. Aliens with two gameplay styles. Classic is a real-time strategy/first person shooter hybrid, where there are real differences between the teams. Combat is an action-oriented RPG-style game with shorter rounds. It's based on the Half-Life 1 engine, with a Source version to be released (hopefully this year). Still, if you have fond memories of Quake, then you probably don't mind 5 year-old technology. The company formed by the mod authors (Unknown Worlds) is trying to make money now, and I wish them luck.
Sure, not everyone is playing the same game anymore, but the market is much bigger as well. The important thing is the community, and if you have 3 friends willing to play with you, that may be all the community you need.